Ok so what happens now that he completely walked away from our daughter, he calls me up to tell me he's coming to see her and then never shows up, we had agreement but he doesn't stick to it. Now he's little girlfriend is threatening to take me to court him and her to get my daughter. What judge in his right mind would give a drug addict a kid; because that's what he has become... he honestly thinks he can get my daughter. About changing her last name there trying to tell me it costs like 5,ooo I really don't know about any of that but if anyone can help me. Currently I'm trying to get full custody of Madison so he can try anything funny, I don't know how much that's going to run me and I really can't afford it but I mean I've got plenty of people who would help me out any one know any good lawyers in PA. I know he's her father and I'm sacred about what he can do and it's not like he can just show up and try to take her from me or anything like that right. Cause regardless if he's name is on her birth certificate I'm mommy and daddy she is my life and there nothing he can do like that right. The only thing I wanted was for her to know her daddy but now I could careless he she ever knows his name. It seems like new girlfriend more problems and the little girl is going to try and threaten me like grow up.there's nothing I can do or change even know he walked away.Help me please I'm going to crazy here!

Tell the judge to order a drug test to see if he's a drug addict.
Have the judge also issue a search warrant at his house to find drugs.

Voila.

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Originally Posted by maddiesmommy

Ok so what happens now that he completely walked away from our daughter, he calls me up to tell me he’s coming to see her and then never shows up, we had agreement but he doesn't stick to it. Now he's little girlfriend is threatening to take me to court him and her to get my daughter. What judge in his right mind would give a drug addict a kid; because that’s what he has become.....he honestly thinks he can get my daughter. About changing her last name there trying to tell me it costs like 5,ooo I really don't know about any of that but if anyone can help me. Currently I'm trying to get full custody of Madison so he can try anything funny, I don't know how much that’s gonna run me and I really can't afford it but I mean I’ve got plenty of ppl who would help me out any one know any good lawyers in PA. I know he's her father and I’m sacred about what he can do and it’s not like he can just show up and try to take her from me or anything like that right. Cause regardless if he's name is on her birth certificate I’m mommy and daddy she is my life and there nothing he can do like that right. The only thing i wanted was for her to know her daddy but now I could careless he she ever knows his name. It seems like new girlfriend more problems and the little girl is gonna try and threaten me like grow up.there's nothing i can do or change even know he walked away.Help me please I’m gonna crazy here!

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Go to Court, get paternity established, get an order for custody and visitation and support. If you don't, this will go on forever.

Unless you are unfit and a danger to the child the Court is not going to take your child away.

Depending on the circumstances the Judge MAY request drug testing for him but you would need very solid proof or else it's a violation of the father's rights.

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Originally Posted by hjpan

Tell the judge to order a drug test to see if he's a drug addict.
Have the judge also issue a search warrant at his house to find drugs.

Voila.

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This is bad advice, also incorrect - it doesn't work this way. You don't walk into the Courtroom and demand drug testing and a search warrant.

Well first ex's and esp their new girlfriends will lie all the time,

First the ex's girlfriend can't do anything but be a girlfriend,

So what do you do, stop listening to them, go to court and get a court order or custody and a court order for child support.

You can request supervised visits and tell the Judge your concerns to help support your reason for wanting supervised visits. It will not guarantee what the Judge will order but at least you made your concerns known.