Originally Posted by JMartin03
I am married he is married we have been having an affair for 17 months now, it started out strong with him being crazy about me, wanting to be with me all time, emailing me and calling then when his wife became suspicious it came to a stop, he doesn't share as much we only see each other 1 time a month he calls 2/3 times a week and usually ignores my emotinoal emails. e says when he hearts takes over he has to put me back in his head, that there's something about me he can't get off his mind ( i only hear now when it's become a problem) do you think he really can love me and love her too but can't make that divorce in order to be with me? he knows i'd leave my marriage for him, he knows my adult daughter knows about us and that scared him, he said it made him realize how easy it would be to walk away and take me for himself, he's got 2 yourng kids, he though looking for someone else would help him move on from me but I found out he was looking, caught him and confronted him and that's when he told me the abuve and we have continued on because we both wanted too....so confused. he's a very busy man but wouldn't it be true that no matter how busy you are, if you really liked someone and tought about them the way he says he does about me that he'd prioritize and make time to call me and be with me more?
oh, he says he gets too excited and can't hide it from his wife, his words " though i can hide you from her i can't hide my feelings for you from her" so i have to continue to fight with it.
please help me understand this