My girl is 17 an still a virgin. We love each other but I have never made love to a virgin before. My friends have made me to understand that it is not a good experience I don't want my girl to feel so bad about it or to have some kind off friction. Please tell me how to go about everything.

Why don't you let her, tell you how to go about everything?

Unless you have plans on marring her, I'm not inclined to give you any advise to help you
Put another notch in your saddle.

Hello mega:

We are the smartest beings on the earth, yet EVERY being screws. How come all the dumb ones know how to do it, but the smart ones need directions?

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Your girl is 17.

Better to find out the age of consent in your state, if you ask me.

How old are YOU?

Either way---how about not even THINKING about sex with her until she indicates that SHE is ready for it, even if that is YEARS down the road?

Leave her alone... she's too young.

I would leave well alone.. may be until you're a bit older ,when the time is right ,if your still together, let things take their natural course.

Don't forget birth control and protection

I think you should talk to her about it. If she wants to have sex with you, that's perfectly fine. I'm sure she knows that it's going to be uncomfortable her first time, but that's something every girl has to deal with. Try having a conversation with her about it, but don't do it when you two are fooling around, because she might feel pressured if you bring it up in the heat of the moment. Make sure she's comfortable talking with you about it, too. Let her know that you're worried about what it's going to feel like for her; she'll appreciate your concern and it will probably make her feel more at ease talking about it.

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Originally Posted by megalove

my girl is 17 an still a virgin. we love each other but i have never made love to a virgin before. my friends have made me to understand that it is not a good experience i don't want my girl to feel so bad about it or to have some kind off friction. please tell me how to go about everything.

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Hey- you got to take into consideration that she is probably going to be very nervous since she's never done it. Also it isn't exactly comfortable for us ladies the first time especially if your with a experienced man that isn't to gentle. She won't have friction if you turn her on prior to intercourse. I'd advise talking with her and find out what arouses her and then try that before you start going at it!

I agree to not be her first unless and until you are sure that you really want her more than just a notch or just another one of your gf's. Girls that are virgins sometimes are for a reason --like they want that somebody special to be their first. Don't disillusion her only to leave her.

I would ask her what she thinks about the situation. See if she really wants to have sex. Don't always believe what your buddies tell you. If you really love her it should be a great experience. But see how she feels about it first, and when you're both ready. I say go for it.

She's is jail bait in some areas. That can get you time being someone's prison biatch. And a lifetime as a registered sex offender. Wait until she's 18.

Does your girl want to have sex? If all is for the right reasons I see no objections. Just be gentle and slow, and help her know she is cared for - that you aren't just having sex for your pleasure (this would be a wrong reason) You want this to be an experience for her that she wants more of, and that she will look back on in years to come without regrets, knowing she made the right decision to sleep with you.