Moving to be with Boyfriend and Mom hates it.what should I do?
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Okay... I know you have heard it all before but I am 22 yr old Female, the oldest and only female born to my mother. My boyfriend is 29. We have been together for a while and we love each other more than anything... he even wants us to marry! We met from my Uncle... He is my Uncle's best friend. After a ruined relationship and some "Single" time for over a year, I met Eric. My Uncle talked highly of him. From the moment I spoke with him on the phone I was captured! We talked every night on the phone for hours getting to know one another. After two weeks, we finally met... when he stepped out of the truck, oh I almost swooned! He was way cute!! We were shy at first just standing there with my mother, uncle and aunt. After the crowd panned out, we started chatting. He invited me to his house for dinner.. I agreed. He cook steak (my fav) and we laughed the night away.. I felt so at ease with him. I live in mid Florida and he lives in North Florida... it takes two and half hours to see him... we try to see each other every weekend but lately we settle for everyother week. We still talk every night on the phone for hours. You see, I live in Melbourne with no family but my parents and two brothers. I love them dearly but I don't want to live here. All my family (Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Grandma, etc) all live where Eric lives. I mentioned a few months back that I wouldn't mind moving back to North Florida, I would just hate the drive (From the little town to Jacksonville, its 25 mins) but I could live with it, that was the ONLY con (the driving into town)
Eric asked me three months ago if I would move in with him. I thought about it and I really want to. I love him with all my heart and we are so right for each other... my heart tells me, this is where I belong. I mentioned it to my mother... who herself is separating from my step-dad. She at the time wanted to move back too.. so after all this time, I am finally ready to move in the next two weeks and my mon is freakin out on me.
She says she is not mvoing to a dead end town and that I am hurting her by moving away, that she thought we were closer than that... I was a fool for moving to be with him.
Eric is a Master Electrician and he works with a great company making $30.00 an hour at 29 years old. He is VERY respectful!! He was in the special forces in the Marine Corps, when he got out three years ago he bought 10 acres on land and is now building a house on it for us... you would think she would love to have her daughter meet a man as such... who will provide well, good to her, doesn't raise his voice, great with children, etc.
I am stuck... I know what I want and I want to be with him but I am battling with my mother each day now. Eric and I want to get married, we are planning to elope... we know a wedding will stir the pot with my drama family! He is even hurt by the things she says... we both sat on the phone last night and we BOTH cried thinking we might have to end it... but we told each other we would get through this bump in the road and stay strong... of course, my mother was outside my bedroom door listening to everything I said to him last night while I was crying and then she threw it in my face this morning asking what he had said!! How could she! I love my mother very much but its getting too much.
If I choose him , I lose my mother, if I choose my mother then I lose Eric... Its not fair... and yes, I know lifes not fair but damn! I want my own life! She says that I was never there for her and anything else she could throw at me... I don't know if she is mad because I have a wonderful man and will live a great life with him or what. I just don't know... I feel so lost
Please, offer some advice... am I in the wrong for moving to be with my soon to be husband?
