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Ex-Girlfriend = 16 years old, going onto college.
My good friend & Ex-Girlfriend's best friend = 16 years old, going onto college.
Me = 16 years old, going onto college.
The other guy = 14 years old (I think) , in year 9 (grade9) going onto year 10 (grade 10)

Me & My Ex-Girlfriend was with each other for 7 months. My longest yet. & She was hanging round with another guy more than me this one week, her best friend even noticed that she was spending a lot of time with him. I asked her if she was seeing him & she said no she loved me, not him & she said she is really good friends with him like she is with her other best friend... after days of thinking... I decided to dump her because I didn't feel like I believed her, if you get me.

I THINK I MADE THE WORST DECISION OF MY LIFE :( . The saying " You dont know you love them until there really gone " is really true. :( :( I MISS HER SO MUCH IT HURTS INSIDE, to make me feel more worse about myself a month later after we broke up she is now with the guy who I thought she was hanging around with, this hurt me SO much, I can't begin to explain. She told me apart of her still Loves me. One weekend, soon. Her best friend, who I am really also good friends with & my ex-girlfriend are coming to stay at mine, & were going to be talking, catching up with each other etc. I need help on whether I should express my feelings to her there & then, and see what she as to say!

What should I do ? :confused: :confused:

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I miss her so FRICKEN MUCH, I have never felt this way before! I may only be 16 but this is the first time I have EVER felt this way, I can't describe to you how much it hurts, is this Love ? I heard that us "kids" don't know what love is, but I think this may be it ?

Do you think it will last with her & him ?

Thank you for your time in reading this.

Your last little part about drinking, I don't understand. You shouldn't be drinking, it is not OK for your parents to supply for your friends.. its one thing for you... but NOT for them to decide that they should be drinking..
Someone tells their parents and they don't like it.. Your parents are in deep crap!

It could be love... there are all sorts of types of love. This is friend love, family love.. Self love, true love.. puppy love.. Read my signiture...

But your young, and you will meet others. And you will feel even more...
This is just your first love.. its great and all.. but they don't tend to last. Things change and so do people..

I think she was interested in the other guy.. and she may have lost interest in you..
Move on.. experience dating other girls.. it will help you in the future.

Are you from the UK, I know their schools have different names.. Explain how your going to college?

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Originally Posted by KissMe10der

Your last lil part about drinking, i don't understand. You shouldn't be drinking, it is not ok for your parents to supply for your friends.. its one thing for you... but NOT for them to deside that they should be drinking..
Someone tells their parents and they don't like it.. Your parents are in deep crap!

It could be love... there are all sorts of types of love. Read my signiture...

But your young, and you will meet others. And you will feel even more...

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Yes I understand about the drinking , I know we shouldn't be but YOU don't understand, were not some immature kiddies that are going to go that crazy were going to get our stomachs pumped. Also they know what they want to drink, & were not having any shots, its just a casual drink talking.

You can do casual talking without drinking...
Your 16 legal age is 21, where I'm from... Your not even allowed to smoke..

Anyway, if your concerned that your going to say something you don't want to.. DON'T drink.. Simple as that..

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Originally Posted by KissMe10der

You can do casual talking without drinking...
Your 16 legal age is 21, where im from... Your not even allowed to smoke..

Anyway, if your concerned that your going to say something you don't want to.. DON'T drink.. Simple as that..

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Legal age is 18 were I am from, were not smoking either, we don't smoke anyway. :mad:
& I didn't say I was concerned that I am going to say something I don't want to... :mad:
& yeah you can have a casual talk without drinking, but in my opinion we have more fun if we do, everyone is different, I appreciate you don't think its right us drinking .

Please anyone else got a answer to my problem please ?

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because I have been drunk before & I think people need to replace the word stupid with "true" because I think people express themselves more truthfully when they are drunk, that's why they regret saying them in the morning & say "I was drunk, i was talking stupid" or something like that.

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That's not always the case, and there is a reason why people don't say things when they are sober ,as when they are IMPAIRED by drinking. Its called rational common sense. Stupid may be a good word, but you never take the word of a drunk, not if your sober, do you?

I can tell you, your drunking, and making important decisions will lead to your downfall. Whether you believe it or not, doesn't matter as you will find out drunken decisions are very bad news, and can be dangerous.

If you really want to know your true feelings, and how to deal with them, stop drinking.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Thats not always the case, and there is a reason why people don't say things when they are sober ,as when they are IMPAIRED by drinking. Its called rational common sense. Stupid may be a good word, but you never take the word of a drunk, not if your sober, do you??

I can tell you, your drunking, and making important decisions will lead to your downfall. Whether you believe it or not, doesn't matter as you will find out drunken decisions are very bad news, and can be dangerous.

If you really want to know your true feelings, and how to deal with them, stop drinking.

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O ffs you know what I'm just going to take the drinking part out because know one is going to answer my problem , I mean drinking if your 16 is SUCH a major bad thing, way worse than everything else that happens in the world.

Anyone got a good answer?

YOU brought up the drinking. You seem as if you want to drink to take her off guard to talk to her about your needs. She has moved on hun.. you should too.

PLUS, you are only 16, yes.. You are also talking to adults who have been drinkng and dating for years.. and know what we are talking about.

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Originally Posted by KissMe10der

YOU brought up the drinking. You seem as if you want to drink to take her off guard to talk to her about your needs. She has moved on hun.. you should too.

PLUS, you are only 16, yes.. You are also talking to adults who have been drinkng and dating for years.. and know what we are talking about.

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So should I just forget about her ?
& move on ?

You dumped her for a reason... your gut instinct...
GUT is normally right.
Proof is that she is now dating him..

Stand your ground.. and move on.
Seeing her isn't going to help.

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Originally Posted by KissMe10der

You dumped her for a reason... your gut instinct...
GUT is normally right.
Proof is that she is now dating him..

Stand your ground.. and move on.
Seeing her isnt going to help.

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I was thinking about forgetting about her but I've tried & I cant, but I think maybe in time I will, probably when I'm in college when I start meeting new friends etc maybe even a new girl ? I think your right & should just accept the fact she is a "friend".

It takes time, but its not impossible.

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I may only be 16 but this is the first time I have EVER felt this way,

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So you really don't know what those intense feelings are ,and your inexperience, gives you nothing to compare it to.

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I can't describe to you how much it hurts, is this Love ?

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Lust, and physical attractions, are as intense also.

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I heard that us "kids" don't know what love is, but I think this may be it ?

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I doubt it, as love tends to stand the test of time, and obstacles, while physical attractions, and lust,tend to wear off.

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Do you think it will last with her & him ?

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Nope, just a young hook up, maybe like yours, if you had trusted her, another indication of it not being love.

You dumped her, and she went with another guy, it happens a lot when your young, and you just need to cope with the feelings, and focus on other things in your life. Keep living, and you'll find out what love really is. Its one of those things best done sober.