Should I Give Him Another Chance?
I had been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months before we broke up last month in July. We had lived together all of these months. I have known him for almost 4 years, he was my first love, but we broke up when I was 18. He has a 3 year old son with another woman, so I obviously knew they had to have some type of relationship with each other for their child! Understandable! But at the end of June I spoke with his sons' mother she told me he bought her a very expensive name brand purse for mother's day! I didn't know anything about this bag, needless to say I was INFURIATED! His sons mother said oh I shouldn't worry about them dealing with each other in a sexual way because she had a boyfriend and everything but I was more hurt that he bought her this expensive item without me knowing. She told me about the purse because she knew I would get upset!! She claims she bought him a pair of expensive brand denim jeans for Father's day, but that didn't change the way I felt about the situation! FYI: we were arguing a lot before we got to this point of me finding out about the purse! Because he paid all the bills and I was unemployed! So when I confronted him about the bag, he said he apologized but he didn't know why I would be upset about something like that when he gave me whatever I wanted and paid for the rent, groceries, my clothing, hair, and whatever outings we went on! I still felt and FEEL betrayed. So For revenge I sold his plasma TV for $500... the value of the bag, and he gave me an additional $500 so we could reconcile. He tells me every day how sorry he is, and now he sees from my point of view why he shouldn't have got the bag, or at least he should have told me he got the bag. But I don't know if I could be with him, after making a purchase for mother's day behind my back! I think that my revenge was childish, but I was upset. He already forgave for taking his TV and laptop, he just wants me to move back in with him, but I don't trust that he doesn't have some lingering feelings fpr his ex! Even though she claimms there is nothing going on between them! My ultimate question is... Is what he did FORGIVABLE?!