My ex and I were together for about 9 years. We lived together for 3 years. We seldom argued, we worked really well together. However, I reached a point of frustration when I could no longer explain to anyone, myself included, why we were not engaged or married. I did not want to push the issue because I want to marry a man who wants me in the same way... I did not want to look back years later and wonder if it was what he really wanted or not.

So, several months a go I opted end the relationship and to move out and live by myself for the first time in my adult life. Living on my own has been a great experience. However, time has not made the split easier for me. I try my best to avoid contact because I wanted to give him the time and space to get over the relationship. The more time that passes, the more I miss him and everything we shared. I thought time was supposed to make things easier... does the fact that it is not easier mean that I have made a mistake? If so, what do I do now? Was it fair to leave when I never told him that I wanted him to propose? (I thought the 9 years together was a big enough hint!)

I have been on dates with other people, forced myself to go and do different things, but I feel like there is a part of me that's missing without my ex in my life. I just don't know where to go from here.

Most relationships are not about romance but about commitment and working well as a team. The grass is always greener and now you got a sample that the single dating life isn't all that impressive. Me myself I would realize how good I had it and see if there is anything I could do to fix your relationship. My bet is it doesn't get any better with your single dating life.