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  • Aug 3, 2008, 12:36 PM
    AshleyStar
    Ray of hope.
    I'm slightly tentative to write this because I don't want to give people false hope but, on the other hand, I want to emphasise how important NC is.

    I posted here about 3 months ago when I was dumped. This was the love of my life and I was distraught. I was such a mess I had to take diazapan to sleep and I couldn't eat... the usual story.

    There was absolutely no hope of us getting back together. He was out meeting other girls and didn't spare me a second thought. I had to force myself into NC for my sanity and to try and keepsome dignity. I went on holiday with my girlfriends, graduated from uni, got a job and just basically got on with my life.

    The pain lessened everyday but nothing changed the fact that I loved this man and I believe true love never dies.

    Anyway, he must have needed the space to reflect because two months since I began NC he was in contact to say he missed me and wanted to talk and try again. So... miracles do happen but it's important not to wait around for them to happen and to give the relationship space to heal.
  • Aug 3, 2008, 12:39 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    I'm glad things worked out for the best, but be careful. He may be "missing you" due to loneliness... be sure that the issues that were there previously have been worked out before you walk into this again.

    Just don't want you to get hurt again.

    Best.
  • Aug 3, 2008, 08:19 PM
    talaniman
    I have seen this a few times here, and until his mouth matches his actions, I urge caution.
  • Aug 3, 2008, 08:21 PM
    hjpan
    Nope, cut ties with a player. He went after girls instead of you...

    Is that the type of guy you want to date?

    His actions spoke louder than his words.
  • Aug 3, 2008, 11:02 PM
    serena6878
    What to lose if you tell him you love him which doesn't change? Maybe it will cost your dignity and courage.
    Life is short. Missing someone or having someone in life could not be avoided by all of us.
    When I say I love you, I am already prepared for still getting nothing back. I just want a person know it.
    I hope you will be good luck!
  • Aug 4, 2008, 06:29 AM
    Romefalls19
    Make sure you communicate about the problems that made you guys break up in the first place. If you don't sort them out, they will resurface and you will be right back here wondering what happened.

    Congrats though!

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