I screwed up big time, all my fault. She is about to leave forever, I need assistance
Hey guys, I have a big problem. My girlfriend that I have been with for over a year recently broke up with me because of how I've been. She thinks that I'm too secretive on the computer, through text messaging, and my phone calls. I did portray that, and it was a bad thing. I am secretive with my conversations, I'm a very private guy and I don't like people snooping, but I made it look too suspicious. That's just one of the issues.
I was bad to her, I wasn't there for her when she needed me most, I didn't do a lot of the things I should have for her. She tried countless times to try and talk to me about our problems and fix them, but I brushed her off or didn't take it seriously. Then one day, she told me that she can't do this anymore and that its over. This happened one other time before, but we got back together. I begged and told her that I know how bad I have been and that I can change and fix things, but she said I said that the last time and that things would go back to the way they are now, and she can't be hurt by me anymore.
Allow me to clarify and make some things known. These are NOT excuses she made up because she has lost her love or attraction for me. She is NOT wanting to meet other guys or find a new relationship. I just treated her piss poorly, and now I'm paying for it. I have broke down so much lately, I really do love her, and I regret being how I was so much, but she won't accept it. She said if I change my ways and show her I can treat her decent, she said that she would want to be with me, she said because she loves me so much. The issue here is that she doesn't trust me, she thinks I am going to hurt her more.
She has family and friends about four or so hours away from me. She had a trip planned to see them, and it happened after we broke up. Now we talk, and she says she is staying there.
Friends, I'm worried. If I don't do something fast, or make some sort of last attempt I'm afraid I may lose her forever since there will be a huge distance between us. I need your help. I love this girl, we'd talked about marriage, kids, etc. Would it mean anything if I just up and drove down there and professed how much she meant to me? Maybe even pop the question. I can't lose the love of my life because of how retarded I was. I will never forgive myself if I ruined something that could have been amazing, just because I was being such an .
Should I propose? My last hope.
Hey guys, here is my situation. My girlfriend of over a year broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, and we have barely had contact. I was a jerk to her, I didn't appreciate her, I didn't help her in a time of need and I broke promises of spending time with her consistently. This all happened over the period of about a month until she couldn't take anymore, and left. I begged her to stay, said I would change. She said that she isn't sure, because something similar happened before.
Im being 100% real right now. I want to spend my life with this girl, but she has moved four hours away. She has been applying for colleges and may get a room with her girlfriends. The situation is desperate, if I don't act soon she may be locked into legal agreements and fees, etc. Then I don't know what will happen. She said she needed space, and I have given it to her for the most part. I said I wouldn't talk to her about us anymore until she was ready, and that was about two weeks ago.
A few weeks prior to us being split apart, my sister and her were talking. She said that she would marry me if I were to ask her, my sister told me that after we broke up. We have talked, I know she loves me and would be with me if I changed for real, and I have been working so hard to be more honest and more sensitive over this period of a month. Im not sure if its been enough time for her to heal, but I don't know if I can risk waiting anymore.
My question really is this: I want to drive out there and surprise her, and get on my knee and ask her to marry me. Tell her that she is so special, and that things are going to change. Can it work? Do I take a gamble either way?