I was dating this guy for 3 months.. I know that isn't long but we became really close and he met my whole family and my son.Everything was going fine until he had gotten into a fight and arrested and since he is in the navy everything was at jeopardy.. He used to call me every night and text me all day long but after that he would go 5 days without calling me... and then talk to me like nothing was wrong... I ended up breaking up with him and he didn't try that hard to keep us together.. we hung out once a week later and we hooked up but it wasn't the same... 1 1/2 months went by and he ended up calling me and wanting another chance we hung out and he said he missed me but I told him I just wanted to be friends.. he really hurt me.. well I think I am in love with him and there is honestly no reason I should be but for some reason I am!when we are together he makes me feel so good but he never calls me anymore and only responds to my texts when I text him first! I feel like since I didn't accept him asking me back out 2 weeks ago that now he just is over it... I don't think I can just be friends with him and for some reason I can't get over him! I have never been in this situation where I love a guy and they don't love me back:( I told him I wish things could be the way they were and he just texted me back I know not I know me 2... doesnt ever text me first anymore but when I text him says I miss u... I AM SO CONFUSED! HELP!:confused:

Well. You broke up for a reason. You are probably just missing the company. And like your post title says, he doesn't care about me anymore. So why do you?. you don't control who you fall in love with, but you sure do have a choice to fall out of love. Think with your head. Your feelings are probably just clouding your judgment. I say move on and just hope for better luck next time.

Stop texting him and don't accept any from him. Move on, he don't seem that in to you. I hope you didn't dump him thinking he would beg you to take him back??

I think you did a good call in dumping him and it seems your intincts told you to do this and you should always follow your intincts.Stop setting yourself up by thinking you can't get over him and think you can, then you can.

You don't have to be friends with him and stop expecting him to come running back to you because if he's over you, why should you care? You need to let go and focus on yourself.

I'm a single mom, and I have been where you are. To be honest, there are other guys out there. I had a boyfriend several years ago that was a nightmare. He didn't really care about me. He was really good to me for a long time, but when he stopped caring... he just stopped. I chased him around. I was so hurt, but I just couldn't get over it. I can't speak for you, but I was scared that I couldn't do better. He liked me, and as a single mom, guys were not beating down my door anymore. Don't get me wrong, I had my fair share of guys that wanted to sleep with me, but I wasn't looking for that. He wanted to date me and that was enough for me. It was hard for me to get over someone that I thought was a good man. Anyway, there are other guys out there. I finally got to a place where I embraced the fact that I might have to do this on my own. That's when I met my current boyfriend. I have a great boyfriend who treats me and my daughter really well. Just don't settle!

Hang in there!

Please read my survival guide below.

My friend, he is playing games. When something is slipping from our grasp, our natural instinct is to chase it. That is why you suddenly feel 'in love' with this bloke. Whether you realise it or not, the more you text or call this guy, the more you are stroking his ego, and the more inclined he would feel to run in the other direction.

Muster all the courage you have, don't call him, text him, nothing. If you keep this up, you will come up trumps.

If you can pull this off, this is a win/win situation. If he doesn't initiate contact, too bad, at least you are on the road to recovery and open to meet someone new. If he does contact you, show him that you are happy without him, and couldn't give two hoots whether he wants to be with you or not. Now sit back with your arms folded and watch who will chase who!

Yes indeed.

How's it going RooGirl? Did you find space and peace?

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I was dating this guy for 3 months..I know that isn't long but we became really close and he met my whole family and my son.Everything was going fine until he had gotten into a fight and arrested and since he is in the navy everything was at jeopardy..He used to call me every night and text me all day long but after that he would go 5 days without calling me...and then talk to me like nothing was wrong...I ended up breaking up with him and he didnt try that hard to keep us together..we hung out once a week later and we hooked up but it wasnt the same...1 1/2 months went by and he ended up calling me and wanting another chance we hung out and he said he missed me but I told him I just wanted to be friends..he really hurt me..well I think I am in love with him and there is honestly no reason I should be but for some reason I am!when we are together he makes me feel so good but he never calls me anymore and only responds to my texts when I text him first!!I feel like since I didnt accept him asking me back out 2 weeks ago that now he just is over it...I dont think I can just be friends with him and for some reason i can't get over him!!I have never been in this situation where i love a guy and they dont love me back:( I told him I wish things could be the way they were and he just texted me back I know not I know me 2....doesnt ever text me first anymore but when I text him says I miss u...I AM SO CONFUSED!!HELP!:confused:

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No matter what your ex thinks about you, at the end of the day, remember that you are a good hearted individual. Whether your ex wanted that or not, it is truly his loss. We just have to keep in mind that at times you will be at the other end--giving the bad news.

It is just human nature. And for those who can see your good heart will win.

First and foremost, love those who are blood related first. As they say, blood is thicker than water. So, if you have a child, really, it doesn't matter what a guy thinks about you. It's what your kid think about you.

Hang in there. Everyone in here means well...

Why are you wasting your time, and emotion, on someone who's action say, they don't care?? Read my signature.

This ex of yours is stupid. Sure, he is in the Navy but if he's arrested... his career is pretty much screwed since he doesn't go to regular civilian court; instead, he'll go to JAG (military court). Oh boy, you need to get this guy out of your life... Calls you, then leaves you in the dark, calls you once more, then disappears? It's like he is hiding from the police or something...

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yes indeed.

How's it going RooGirl? Did you find space and peace?

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G'day Ash. Yes I'm good. But I understand what the asker is going through, and how terrible it feels on the inside. But there is a solution to every problem.

Move on from this dumbace, you deserve better, it's about time you realize this

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