I got together with my boyfriend while he was seeing someone else. Now they have broken up and we are together.. but his family doesn't know as they are still close friends with his ex
He says he is going to tell them in the next week
His ex came down to stay recently at his family home... but that night he switched his phone off and when it was on... rejected my calls.
He goes to the army in September and I do trust him... am I wrong to be worried and annoyed!

He saw you whilst he was seeing someone else - that's a big sign right there. He went behind her back couldn't he do the same to you?

If you do trust him well what do you have to be worried and annoyed about?

He told me that was the only time he had ever cheated on anyone and that he would never do it again. We were friends for a while... but both wanted more
Im not exactly worried... but annoyed at him for doing what he did. Don't want to cause ana argument though

I can't imagine why his ex would go and stay at his house.. no matter how close her connection is with his family. Something smells dodgey, but that's just my opinion.
Communication is key within a relationship and its something you guys will have to work on by the sounds of things, especially as he's joining the army.

You have two options keep quiet and get over it or talk it out with him.

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...but that night he switched his phone off and when it was on...rejected my calls.

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"chick123" re:the phone calls. Yes,that night he switched his phone off (as a result of
His ex being in the house) and for the same reason, when it was on... rejected your calls.

... that's the negative

The positive is that he wants you to meet his family,face to
face. :)

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chick123, I got together with my boyfriend while he was seeing someone else.

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RED FLAG! He was cheating??? Or just sneaky!

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now they have broken up and we are together..

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RED FLAG Rebound?

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his family doesn't know as they are still close friends with his ex

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RED FLAG Why the secret if this was an honest open thing!

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he says he is going to tell them in the next week

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RED FLAG He had to tell you something, as he has to put you off because he has agenda that doesn't involve you.

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His ex came down to stay recently at his family home... but that night he switched his phone off and when it was on... rejected my calls.

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RED FLAG Yep seeing her again was his agenda,

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He goes to the army in September and I do trust him...

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RED FLAG Why do you trust him???? Why? Why?

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am I wrong to be worried and annoyed!

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RED FLAG You wouldn't have written here if you didn't smell a rat.

You are worried and annoyed because you smell that rat, and no matter what he says, IT STINKS. :eek:

I think ill try talking to him about it and why he did it
I do believe that he wouldn't cheat on me... I know he did on his ex with me but it wasn't a stupid fling
So I think its worth talking things through

Good luck

Thank you. I text him saying exactly what I've said... and he's assured me that she won't be coming round anymore and he's told his mum about us... and she thinks I'm a bit young for him.. but is OK and I'm going round there next week!