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  • Apr 11, 2006, 04:37 PM
    cutie08
    Don't know which one to choose
    OK so I'm dating my best friends ex and she swore that it didn't bother her because she was the one that told me that I should date him and I told her that if she ever had a prob with it to let me know. And so then there other day she told me that she did so then I broke up with him. Well after I did I really missed him and stuff so we talked me and my friend and she told me to go back out with him but I don't know what to do I mean I really miss him a lot but I don't want to hurt my best friend or ruin me and hers friendship anyone have an advice for me on what to do??
  • Apr 11, 2006, 04:41 PM
    DrJ
    Live your own life and don't make decisions based on how your friend is feeling on a bad day. She said it was okay the first time... she's not allowed to change her mind. If she does, its for her own selfish reasons. Im not saying to sabotage your friendship with her... its likely more valuable than this relationship with this boy. But she is also a young girl and unsure of what she wants in life... why are you going to base your life on what she decides she wants or doesn't want from one day to the next?
  • Apr 11, 2006, 06:19 PM
    s_cianci
    Well, when push comes to shove you can't let others run your life for you. You have to do what's right for YOU, not what's right for your best friend. If you and this guy really care for each other then it's really not fair for your best friend to come between the two of you. If, on the other hand, it's just a casual fling then it may not be worth upsetting your best friend to the point where it ruins your friendship.
  • Apr 12, 2006, 04:51 AM
    fredg
    Hi, cutie,
    If you want to keep this girl as your best friend, find yourself a boyfriend that she doesn't know!
    She is being much to "wish washy" about the whole thing, and will probably change her mind many times about it.
  • Apr 12, 2006, 04:56 AM
    DJ 'H'
    Well it depends really, can you give me a bit more info, like did your best friend break up with him. Did he break up with your best friend?

    If you let me know the circumstances and how it all came about, I will be able to advise you in what the best course of action is.
  • Apr 13, 2006, 04:03 PM
    Wildcat21
    Almost RULE #1 - not quite... never date people that your friends dated seriously. Never. Never date your frineds ex-spouses. They may play nice - but it never works out.
  • Apr 13, 2006, 05:59 PM
    Kryc
    I say do what make you happy. One life is all you get so make the most of it.

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