Chosen by the birthmother, BUT.
My wife and I have been chosen by a birthmother to adopt her baby girl. One huge obstacle--the birth father. The conception was out of wedlock and in her words, he has not had anything to do with the pregnancy. She states that he is a daily marijuana user and lives a 'hard life' and has always been in trouble with the law. She feels he may not give up his parental rights and "believe" he can be a father to this girl. Obviously, he will need to give up his parental rights for this adoption to proceed. How should we proceed with the birth father---Have the birth mother talk to him? Go the attorney route? Thanks in advance for any advice.