Changed my ways, should I try?
Just want to know if there is any way to turn a primarily sexual relationship into more after 6+ years?
I have a situation where I've had feelings for a guy for about 6 years; we dated in the beginning but he never wanted anything more. I fell in love and couldn't let him go, no matter what he did or how he treated me. I basically agreed nonverbally to letting him come around for sex and not having to take me out or agree to anything serious. I fell in love and just figured it was better to have him in my life than not at all. I basically have been letting him disrespect me, and not take me seriously for years now. I even made my love so dormant that sometimes I convinced myself that all I wanted was sex from him; so I've sometimes set up late night rondevous with him. Ive had some type of mix between wanting to feel in control & being in love with him. Anyway...
Recently I have been becoming more spiritual and reading the bible to deal with some issues in my life. I have been realizing how crazy I have been throughout the years, and how I've been perpetuating this treatment even though I still love him a lot. I still want to be with him.
I want to show him that I am not the same woman; that I'm more of a virtuos woman now. He's in his early 30's & I know he's not just looking for a sex partner anymore. I'm not sure if I should invite him for a date or try to call him more to see if I could change the situation, or if it has been to long now that I couldn't change his mind about me if I wanted to.
Its just that my feelings are still so strong for him... I'm not sure what to do. Any advice would help; thanks!