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  • Jul 30, 2008, 08:21 AM
    LadyLongitude
    Letting go of a friend
    Is it wrong to throw away a friendship if your friend does not respect you and show you that they care about you? My friends good friend has told me how much I mean to her but I have never heard that from my friend. Did I make a right decision in ending the friendship over this? I feel respect and showing a person you care about them is important in all relationships. I just hate the feeling of missing this person and not knowing if I did the right thing. I need advice
  • Jul 30, 2008, 08:30 AM
    Romefalls19
    My friends don't ever tell me that they care, but I know they would have my back at the drop of a hat if I needed them. I wouldn't end a friendship because they don't tell me they do
  • Jul 30, 2008, 08:50 AM
    steffy
    Many friends do not show their emotions to other friends, but if you know this friend for a long time, you should know he/she cares for you, no need to say in words. Maybe your friend doesn't like to show her emotions, but that doesn't mean she does't care about you. If you feel comfortable with her company then that's what matters, if not move on..

    Hope this helped :)
  • Jul 30, 2008, 08:52 AM
    steffy
    Oh if you threw your relationship just because she did not tell you she cared about you polease retrieve it quickly or else it a plain goodbye, maybe you will regret it!
  • Jul 30, 2008, 09:19 AM
    LadyLongitude
    I should be more specific when I say respect and not caring. I have been there for her through thick and thin recently as she has been going through life changes. I wanted her to be apart of something special to me, and she gave me an excuse. And the excuse I got was lame and one of the same excuses I have heard her lie to her other friends and use. So by her never showing me how she cares and seeing her lie to her other best friends when I am around, how am I suppose to know that she was being really truthful and not lying?
  • Jul 30, 2008, 09:20 AM
    JBeaucaire
    My take on friendship is much simpler than yours and has given me years of peace:

    "A friend is something you are, not something you have."


    Be a friend to whomever you wish. Placing demands on their reciprocal behavior is just a let-down waiting to happen.

    I would end a friendship with someone who was interfering with my life, my family, or actively denigrating my life in some way. I wouldn't end a friendship over not being respected or card for. I can care for myself.
  • Jul 30, 2008, 09:20 AM
    talaniman
    Friends will come and go through your life, and sometimes we are more comfortable with some, and not others. Don't second guess yourself, as time will tell if you are right or not. You feel this way now, for whatever reason, so that's all you have to go on. Don't worry about it for now.

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