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  • Jul 30, 2008, 05:19 AM
    ulith
    I slept with my best friend, I feel terrible
    Hi,

    In last few months I have great, perfect, awesome, best friendship with one girl. She is ex of my ex-best-friend and I'm ex of her best friend. So this is our love circle. And by the way, we are in the same class. We used to talk about EVERYTHING.

    Last night we were drinking at my place, after a few hours we were drunk and than things started. We were in pyjamas. After massages, talk and usual drunk flirting she put down her shoulder straps of her top cause she don't like it.

    Before this we didn't have any problem with kissing our backs or something cute like that, that was our "close-friends-thing".

    So we started to do our "friends-thingy" and then her top was a bit under her nipples... So we started to f*** each other and after few minutes she found her mind (at least someone was a bit responsible) and stopped that mess. One problem is that we didn't use condom but I did not came so it's less probable that something happened. Than we were laying down for a few minutes, then I laid down on the floor.

    We agreed to never mention this again in front of each other or anyone else. Then we started to saying sorry to each other. Cursing :). Hell, I was freaked out... I was trying to take the blame, then she. Finally, we agreed on 55% me and 45% her blame.

    Morning. We woke up, look in each other's "weslepttogether" eyes and talk about usual stuff, she wanted to help me with cleaning apartment, but me as usual gentleman (except last night :( ), I refused. After 30 minutes she leave. She left here a few of her stuff, so I texted her about it and she didn't reply.

    We are not in love with each other but we like each other. I'm afraid of looking at her, writing more texts or calling. I don't want to loose her!! We are both 18 years old and free, but this is hell for me.

    Thanks for your help, as we agreed to do not tell anyone I don't have anyone to talk about it.
  • Jul 30, 2008, 07:57 AM
    smoothy
    Well, if you can both put it behind you then its possible to stay friends. BUT it depends on eactly how each of you feels about this.

    And this is a great example of why its not good to drink so much you get drunk if there ever was one.
  • Jul 30, 2008, 09:36 AM
    Choux
    We have to learn from our mistakes in life. That's how we grow up and become adults. :)

    File you under 'sadder but wiser' today.

    By the way, you are both 100% responsible because you played teenagers "sex games". :)
  • Jul 30, 2008, 03:03 PM
    Ash123
    Hormones baby!

    Got to love 'em.

    Friends become lovers. Pajamas become litter.

    How old are you?
  • Aug 1, 2008, 02:58 PM
    ulith
    We are both 18.

    I ike her a lot and don't want to lose her in any case, she is my sun in all situations and I'm hers but I'm scared :( She told me today that she needs time but she sounds terrible :(
  • Aug 1, 2008, 03:37 PM
    tolerance
    Just so you know in the future, if you don't already know, a girl can get pregnant off precome.

    Some might need time to clear her head and will come around when she's ready. Give her some time but sooner or later your going have to face what happen, you can't just erase it. Maybe talking about will make your feel better.

    In a shorter note your friendship will either survive or drown and if anything take a while to get back where it was before this happen.
  • Aug 4, 2008, 05:00 AM
    smoothy
    Look at this as a learning experience. Just think, alcohol really does nobody any good.

    While its still early to know for sure, consider yourself lucky the result of stupid drunkenness isn't children.
  • Aug 6, 2008, 07:17 AM
    excon
    Hello u:

    I don't know what you feel terrible about. Oh, I know, it's that you stopped in the middle. THAT would be the ONLY thing I'D feel terrible about... Look, it's fine to fall in love with your best friend. As a matter of fact, I think making her your best friend BEFORE you make her your lover is a GREAT idea.

    Dude. Follow your heart. She's into you, too. Somebody needs to take control of this relationship, because it might die if you don't.

    Besides, this isn't something you can ignore, I don't care HOW much you decide not to talk about it. Every time you look at her, it's going to come up - literally.

    excon
  • Aug 15, 2008, 01:22 AM
    ulith
    Ok, she is not pregnant :) Thanks for your help, we are now as we were so it's fine.

    Bye

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