Hey guys my girlfriend wants me to leave my job it's a great paying job but time consuming anyway its really hard because it's the only thing I am good at and I do want a life with her I know that if I keep it up I will lose her I also want to quit my job but as I take care of my mother I can't I feel very traped I have told her all this I said I want a life with u but as of now I just have too much stuff on. Love don't pay the bills sadly

How long have you been together? If it is a short term, it doesn't make much sense to upset your job and financial situation for a girl who could be gone soon anyway.

Your mom is way more important! I commend you for taking care of her! Its hard I'm sure.

If she really loves you she will understand that and be willing to compromise in ways that will make the relationship work if not then it is best to cut your losses and you will find someone worth your devotion. Bless you for taking care of your Mom

No girl that loves you would make you quit a career job simply because she doesn't see you enough. That's being selfish is I must say so myself

Dating is a "tryout". Sounds like she's failing the tryout. Yeah, yeah, I know, you love her... blah blah.

Meanwhile, she wants to be first in your life. That's a red flag if ever there was one. My wife is first GIRL in my life. But when she was my girlfriend, that was all she was. Everything else was mine to decide and I would not have responded well to any girl, even one I loved, thinking she should take precedence over my career or family.

My wife gets that treatment, but that's because the "tryout" is over. Your girl sounds like she needs a wakeup call.

Wow it sounds like maybe you love her more than she loves you. If she truly loved you she would not put you in such a situtation. Family should come first, if she can't accept that then maybe she is not the one for you.

I have known girls that have made their boyfriend quit their job and then they could do nothing right.
New job not good, pay not good, etc...
If she is going to be unrealistic with her expectations you will never please her and she will keep adding to the heap of what she expects from you.
She needs to grow up and compromise. At least you aren't running around cheating on her and I bet she loves the money you make. What if you can't find something else for a while and you end up having a hard time making the bill payments?

You don't need advice, you need a new g/f. No way does she dictate your job, career, or future, and obligations. If she can't get with the program for what it is, to bad!

Yes, keep the job, lose the girl friend

I agree with all of the posts above... especially if you had the job and time commitments when you two got together! This does sound like a girl that will have unrealistic expectations of you... Best of luck in whatever you choose, and kudos to you for taking care of your mom!

Thank you all very much for your advice :) I am going to keep my job. I just hope she can understand, but if not then I guess I will find someone who is more understanding

Oh and we have been seeing each other for just over 1 year


Thanks again

Regards

I think that you shouldn't leave your job. You can't find a good job like your's but maybe you can find better girls huh?

I have to agree with everyone else. If you do give up the job for her, what's next? Give up your best friend, give up you family, where does it end?

On a side note, it's nice to see you back TrueFaith, you've been gone for some time. :)

Keep the job.

Good rule of thumb: Never sacrifice your life's goals for a girlfriend or any other person.