I met a guy 3yrs back, we are just friends but he's tried coming onto me so many time, I did kiss him twice and he invited me to check out the new house he just bought. I like him a lot but I didn't let him know until early last yr, I was at his place, I told him I was falling in love with him and he just blanked out, I told him I wasn't expecting anything from him because he thinks most girls would like to date him because of his money, but I felt I needed to let him know so that I can move onand the ball is in his court. He told me he does not believe in relationships because a girl broke his heart once and ever since then, he tried not to get involved with any girl emotionally. I left his place that day and told myself it was the last time I was going to see him and won't call him and for so reason too he didn't call me too and gradually I forgot about him. All of a sudden on my birthday this month he was the first to call me and he was going on about how he has missed me and has been trying to call me, we got talking again and he kept asking to see me but I refused because I didn't want to go through the whole hassle because it took me ages to get over him, to cut the long story short, late last week he got my house address from my family friend and he drove all the way to my house which is like 50miles from where he stays, called me to say he was outside my house,we went for a walk in the park and as usuall he was all over me but I made sure nothing happened and later on our way back, he said we should be able to work out something and he would like to see me this week, he kept going on about how impressed he was. Later that night, I called him to find out if he got home safely and since then he hasn't called and its been more than 4days now and seeing him has made me realise am still in love with him and I don't know what to do?calling him is not a good idea because he thinks, he's all that... well he his buttt...

Sounds like he wanted a booty call

... You aren't in love with him. You haven't talked to him in how long? And how long did you know him before that?

If you don't mind me asking, how old is he and how old are you?

How much more weird behavior are you going to put up with from this guy, before you have had enough? Don be so fast to think your in love.

Agree with Tal, this is not love, it's lust. He wanted a booty call, you wanted a relationship. Be thankful you both parted ways before you did anything you would regret

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Originally Posted by bigbird213

...You aren't in love with him. You haven't talked to him in how long? And how long did you know him before that?

If you don't mind me asking, how old is he and how old are you?

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Well, I have known him for 3yrs now like I said. He his 26yrs and I am 22yrs

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Originally Posted by mcdreamer

Well, i have known him for 3yrs now like i said. He his 26yrs and i am 22yrs

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I'm just confused by the timeline beucase it sounded like you met him 3 years ago, but didn't really keep in contact...

No more walks in the park. If he wants to call you sometime in the future, let him. If he wants to go out, decide that then. Make sure you are actually going OUT next time... tickets to a ballet/musical and fine dinner.

Actually MAKE some sort of date happen. Then give him a kiss on the cheek, thank him for a lovely evening, and go inside. When he's ready to repeat that night, he'll call again.

If you want a guy with means to enjoy your company, you have to make HIM chase you, you have to allow him to put his means to work doing that. If he can just show up on your doorstep for walks in the park, what the heck is that?

He's not serious. You get mentally screwed with the "walk in the park" thing, so don't do that anymore. Next time he calls you from outside, let him know FROM INSIDE that:

YOU: "I'd love to go to a show and dinner with you. How about next Friday?"
HIM: "But I'm outside now...."
YOU: "Aren't you sweet? I'm not able to take visitors right now, you understand. Are we on for next Friday? That would be so divine!"

You get the idea. If you want a relationship with this guy, become the prize, the hard-to-win prize.

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he said we should be able to work out something and he would like to see me this week, he kept going on about how impressed he was.

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He either wants to be with you, or he doesn't, and by him saying "we should be able to work something out" is a doesn't. You said it yourself, he lives 50 miles away so by him "working something out" that would be him seeing you, and girls where he lives because he can't commit because "he's been hurt", which is a total cop out. We've all been hurt at some point or another by someone we love, and most people can get over it. If not, he needs to go see some counseling to get rid of all his extra baggage.

He's impressed because you didn't contact him, and you didn't act like every other girl does. You may have a chance with him, but don't call him and go with JB and make him take you OUT. No girl wants to just go on a walk through the park with a guy she likes, she wants to show him off as arm candy someplace nice. You said most girls want to be with him because he has money, then he should be able to take you somewhere.

If he wants to see you, he'll call, but don't read too much into what he says until he sits down and says "hey, I want to be with you."

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Originally Posted by bigbird213

I'm just confused by the timeline beucase it sounded like you met him 3 years ago, but didn't really keep in contact...

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We were very good friends until he started coming unto me. I don't believe in just having a fling with some random guy. I told him I was in love with him after 2yrs and I was been genuine about it but he just blanked out, so that was when I decided not to speak with him anymore and needed to move on... but what I don't get is him calling again and making me feel like things are different this time. I know am too good for him anyway... so am not worried.

You stated that he is full of himself and let him stay that way because you don't need a guy like this, he will only bring you a lot of hurt. Next time he calls don't even bother going out with him and if he asks, say "no thanks" and hang up.