My boyfriend and I get jealous over the stupidest stuff. How do we control it or should we break up?
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My boyfriend and I get jealous over the stupidest stuff. How do we control it or should we break up?
How long have you been together? Do you feel there is enough commitment to actually work on your relationship. If your struggling with being jealous, then you need to figure out how to solve this problem anyway, for the sake of your future relationship. Have you thought about talking to a counselor?
Woa woa woa.. break up? Hold on..Quote:
Originally Posted by jocshi23
Why are you guys jealous? Do you guys trust each other? Or is that the problem..
I think you should both work on your trust issues, trust each other! Don't flirt in front of other people e.s.p when your mate is beside you. There is a 50/50 male/female spread in the world, you have to get used to the mentality that males look at females and females look at males whether on purpose or not. If your not in that mentality yet then you shouldn't be dating.
You can work on your trust/jealousy (whatever you call it) by telling each other "exactly" what you did today/week. Well not "exactly" but don't leave out the "I went over to Tim's/Suzy's house" part. ;)
Chris-
Well we did say we were going to but I't never happened. Do u think it could be that we're on different age levels cause we've been together for a year and a half I have three kids from a previous relationship and the only time we fight is when we're in public.We can't even have a nice car ride without one of us saying something about him or I looking at somebody.He don't cheat and ethier do I and the only reason we know that is because we're eith each other almost every min of the day(besides if we're working or something).I'ts like the only time we get anlong is when we're inside the house.Quote:
Originally Posted by KissMe10der
You say age levels, but you don't mention how old.
I'm 23 and he just turned 26.He goes to college,I don't.He don't have no kids,I have three.Quote:
Originally Posted by KissMe10der
It could be maturity, you were forced to grow up quick having kids.
Also, are you looking at other people? Are you insecure with his attraction for you?
Well I'm a people person he's not. I like to look at all people male and female. He likes butts and that's the only thing he looks at when a girl walks by. Well to the other Q. we are both good looking people and I like attention so I might be a little insecure about but we happy in the sex department and sometimes (its sad to say it but)we say that's what's holding us together and the fact that wee do love each other. I would really like this guy to be the guy I marry He's a good provider and he don't cheat(and I do trust that) we do have good times, And he's always there for my kids and I whenever we need him but I can't keep going threw this realationship that every time we go outside we argue about who's looking at who. That's really are only problem And I forgot to mention the stress of interracial dateing cause we are an interraicial couple but I live on his side.Quote:
Originally Posted by KissMe10der
Breaking up is kind of harsh. Try to talk things out.
I think you should start working toward some adult mentalities, what I've read here so far is pretty immature.
I've been married for 23 years. Through MOST of that time, I've had a fake girlfriend I've called Camielle... and my wife and I have never had a problem discussing the attractiveness of other people. None at all. We are both very mature and comfortable in our own relationship.
NOT being intimidated by others is the key. Attractive people are everywhere. People are GOING to look. It's reality. Why fight reality when it's irrelevant if you've got your ducks in a row where it counts?
How about you start pointing OUT the pretty butts to him? This could be a source of SO MUCH HUMOR in your life instead of arguments. It's your call.
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