I have had to postpone my wedding two years ago and now we have everything in order I wanted to get married as soon as possible. We are planning of going to a destination and get married at my brother's place inviting our kids from previous marriages and only family menbers in that location and my best friend and then having another wedding at home in three months with all the glitz and glamour. Who do I have to tell about the first wedding? Can I keep it secret to only those who are invited?

You can do whatever you want, it is your day.

The preacher will have to know since there will be no second marriage license, Depending on the denomintion, the preacher will only do a blessing, he will not pronouce you man and wife, since you are already married, so the service will be different in most of the major denominations, which should be obvious to anyone in the crowd.

Why don't you have one wedding at brothers home and 3 months later have a glits and glamour reception? No need for secrets.