While I'm being stimulated and starting to come there is a point that I can't stand to be touched it starts to get painful if I am ,its hard to tell my husband this because he all of the sudden wants to penatrate me and he can't or its painful for a couple minutes till I recover from orgasm,does anybody have this?

It is normal for me... After orgasm, I don't like to be touched sexually.. Im WAY over stimulated.. and Sensitive.

I think this happens when there is too much clitoral stimulation... that is painful, in my experience. A woman has to get away from the pain in order to climax... and her genitals are too tender.

What worked for me is a minimum amount of clitoral stimulation, nothing direct, and mostly nipple and mental and emotional stimulation when driving for orgasm... or light body stroking and teasing without any touching of erogenous zones. Or... great sex talk, or whatever, :D.

The main erogenous zone is the brain... a woman is best advised to find what really makes her passionate, what pushes her over the edge... self-knowledge is a must in order to have a super orgasmic sex life, in my opinion.

Allowing a man to work over your genitals is about the worst way to have sex, in my opinion. He should primarily be "working over" your mind or everything *but* your genitals. Your genitals don't need help keeping up! Porn has done women a great disservice in this regard, constantly focusing on genitals.

This is normal-during orgasm as direct clitoral contact can hurt due to the overstimulation. Tell him to back off. If it does not feel good why do it? Allow it to be continued?

Tell him the clitoris has twice the number of nerves as the penis, in a much smaller area. And yes, there are others who will experience exactly what you describe. Not all. But you aren't alone.

Sounds like he's performing oral or finger stimulation to get you to orgasm, and then he wants intercourse immediately, or even right as you are hitting orgasm?

Different women can respond very differently to clitoral stim before and after orgasm. The partner I found to be the most responsive to physical stimulation was the partner I had who could stand strong clitoral stimulation. She could get off all the time. always. The next partner would smack me upside the head if I was that rough or direct in stimulation. Somehow the partner before her seemed to have the ability to let the sensations build, but not be so intense that it was painful.

Some women seem to be innervated less or more, and then the brain also can interpret the same sensations differently in different people. What is pain to some is pleasure to others.

Have you tried self stimulation during intercourse? The first time my partner and I had simultaneous orgasms was in a position she usually wasn't very responsive in... she was mostly giving me the "favor" of a position I like sometimes, but with self stim she was actually able to hit orgasm just before me.

If I perform oral on my partner to orgasm, a waiting period of one to two minutes helps her. She can be touched and sex isn't painful after that time, but she is still a little overly sensitive and doesn't want certain sensations.

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because I was made to feel something was wrong with me if I stopped,and he didn't get his right away

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Quite a typical response for a non-feeling a$$hole-I think you may have to TELL him and you need some "personal time " to discover your sexuality and sexual feelings (what makes YOU feel good-its time for YOU to be a little more selfish)...

Yes your so right on that one,I do know myself and am able to please myself but I want the rest,is that too much to ask for? Apparently so!