Hello, I called HR very upset about my job. Now I am scared that I shot myself in the foot. Does HR generally help an employee who is simply not a good match with their manager? It's a managerial style thing - I am spoken to in a condescending and harsh manner. Occasionally nice, but overall inconsistent and hard to trust. They are excellent at what they do, and I respect and admire them for how smart they are and how hard they work. They can't understand why I am not as good as they are... and I am simply different then them. Every time I made a little mistake it's as if they sky has fallen, which has added stress and fear so which cause me to not think straight so that I have made some really basic mistakes. It is a downward spiral and I am afraid I will lose my job. My boss is a by book business documenter - I feel as if she has been methodically collecting all of my mistakes just getting ready to fire me. I have been beaten down to the point of distress. I called HR and told them all of this... What can you tell me about HR in this situation? Will they help me or give me the boot? Will they tell my boss I talked to them when I asked for confidentiality? Please advise. Thanks.

I'm not entirely sure what HR will do. But more importantly... what do you want them to do? If this is a personality conflict with your manager, the boss is about as likely to change personality as you are. So, are you looking to make a lateral move? Get a new job outside the company? Looking for a better description of your job responsibilities and what you need to do to meet them?

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Originally Posted by muppet

Hello, I called HR very upset about my job. Now I am scared that I shot myself in the foot. Does HR generally help an employee who is simply not a good match with their manager? It's a managerial style thing - I am spoken to in a condescending and harsh manner. Occasionally nice, but overall inconsistent and hard to trust. They are excellent at what they do, and I respect and admire them for how smart they are and how hard they work. They can't understand why I am not as good as they are... and I am simply different then them. Every time I made a little mistake it's as if they sky has fallen, which has added stress and fear so which cause me to not think straight so that I have made some really basic mistakes. It is a downward spiral and I am afraid I will lose my job. My boss is a by book business documenter - I feel as if she has been methodically collecting all of my mistakes just getting ready to fire me. I have been beaten down to the point of distress. I called HR and told them all of this... What can you tell me about HR in this situation? Will they help me or give me the boot? Will they tell my boss I talked to them when I asked for confidentiality? Please advise. Thanks.

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If you asked for confidentiality than HR cannot speak to your boss of the incident. HR may check around the company and try to find a better fit in another department and see if you can be transferred. This probably won't happen because if you have asked HR not to talk to anyone they are not allowed to do so which limits what they can do out side of listen to you and let you get it off your chest.

If you wish something to change than someone has to talk to someone about it or no changes will be made.

You need to talk to HR about what changes need to be made and what you can do to help, perhaps some extra training so that you know the job better and do not make mistakes and thus your boss will not be angry with you.

What ever it is if HR does not know what you are willing to do and what you wish to change... no changes will be made.

Shirley

I doubt they will do much expect to "look" into it, so all the bosses will know you made a complaint.

I disagree that all the bosses will know that you made a complaint. HR is not going to run out and tell all the bosses that you made a complaint, especially if you asked it to be kept confidential.

I have been HR for 25 years at my company, and if I am told something in confidence it stays there unless there is a legal reason I need to disclose the information or until the person I talk to says it is okay to disclose the information to someone else.

I do routinly go about and ask the supervisor's how things are running and if there are any challenges in their department I need to be aware of. How their staffing is if they need more staffing if they are overstaffed. It is a routine I have and will not be out of the ordinary.

I would say that nothing will be done because nothing can be said.

Shirley