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  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:28 PM
    DSJ05
    I think my ex is happier now than she was with me.or is it a put on?
    Okay I'm starting to get over her and I'm letting go. I'm using the no contact rule to help both of us out. I still have her as a friend on myspace and ever since we broke things off she seems happier now than she was with me. Only God and Her know what she really feels like but I'm just wandering if she feels like I feel and just covering it up to see what I would do. I know I'm thinking about it too much but it just gets me worked up about how she could not have feelings for me like I did for her. That's what I don't get. Please help.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:34 PM
    marriaget
    Ohhh I understand how you feel.
    Well if only god and her know, how would we know?

    I know you feel like, what is he feeling? Is she crazy about me and trying to act like she's fine but torn inside? Does she really not care? How could she not care!

    It's a really bad feeling... I'm sorry but it's impossible for us to know.
    Only she knows, try to see... by asking her friends... or I don't know look for clues.
    But remember, if you ask other people... they might tell her. So... yeah. I don't know :/
    Sorry,
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:36 PM
    DSJ05
    Thanks it helps!
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:44 PM
    ylaira
    Whatever she's feeling towards you, it doesnt matter now. So might as we'll show her you're much in a better place that you parted ways than show her you are miserable.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:51 PM
    ilovcali
    Well, you're obviously not over her yet. But that's OK. Whatever you are thinking DOES NOT have to be what she is thinking. Who cares what she thinks?

    Remove her from you myspace. She's not YOUR FRIEND. Plus, I bet you look on her page, hoping, searching, looking for clues as to how she feels, if she's meeting new guys, etc. IT WILL DRIVE YOU NUTS!

    Delete her from your life, completely. What you're feeling is totally natural. Just don't act on any false hopes or desires.

    Good luck.

    --Cali
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:52 PM
    N0help4u
    Like yliara said what benefit is it to you to have satisfaction over what she feels like now?
    She might get the satisfaction knowing you are obsessing on what she feels but what good is any of that doing you?
    Often when people break up it is for the better because they feel negative energy that the relationship isn't working for them but that doesn't mean they don't care for you. Even still what good is that doing you? Move on and be content within yourself.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 03:59 PM
    ylaira
    Exactly Nohelp4u! Good job!
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:03 PM
    Kevin_s
    My friend,

    Let's knock this one out with some steps in my "Just not giving a damn anymore" handbook.

    Numero Uno: Delete her from myspace, you know damn right she's checking your page lol.
    Numero Dos: Make sure your page is set to "private", keep the girl guessin'

    Numero Tres: Get a super cute girl to take a picture with you kissing your cheek or something. (this can be friend, random hottie, etc.)

    Numero Quattro: Forget the Ex exists, if she tries to hit you up, just say what's up, be hella nice (like... OVERLY nice... "Hey, How have you been!? It's been so long since we've talked! What's new in your life?")

    Numero Cinco: If the situation above happens.. there's a fork in the road where things can be brought up. Left side is that she has this new boyfriend and all that jazz... (this is when you say how awesome that is and that you'd love to meet him... that'll piss her off lol) Right side is that she misses you and wants to get back, and is questioning you about your myspace pic (she may be rude during this too.. "Oh, so you have a new girlfriend already? are you f*censored*ing her now?" typical ex-girlfriend saying."

    You can be upset and still be humble during a breakup. By showing that you're perfectly fine with or without her, not only are you going to be happier in your life, if you did want her back... she'd see what she's missing. =)
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:29 PM
    Kevin_s
    You can paypal me $10.99 at [email protected] for a copy ;) lol
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:33 PM
    N0help4u
    I'll wait for the book :D
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:34 PM
    Kevin_s
    There's a song I'm listening to, and in it he says..

    To the left, to the left.
    If you want to leave, be my guest. You can step.
    Feeling irreplaceable, listening to Beyonce...
    Well that's okay, I'll put you out on your B-day

    Hahaha I love Lil' Wayne.

    Follow the advice!
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:37 PM
    Kevin_s
    I need some help deciding on a cover picture for my book?

    You like?

    http://smiliesftw.com/x/69gl6a.gif
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:43 PM
    N0help4u
    Maybe title it clowns to the left of me jokers to the right
    May need permission from Steve Miller.

    Maybe change the yellow smiley to a red broken heart shape.
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:46 PM
    DSJ05
    Ha ha I like it! Lol
  • Jul 24, 2008, 04:49 PM
    Kevin_s
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u
    Maybe title it clowns to the left of me jokers to the right
    may need permission from Steve Miller.

    Maybe change the yellow smiley to a red broken heart shape.

    Gosh, you're making me want to go see the Dark Knight again!

    "Do you know how I got these scars?" =)
  • Jul 24, 2008, 05:21 PM
    marriaget
    Ha I saw all these people already. (:
    Everyone is right, I'm sorry but there is no real solution. You can't choose who you like, or control your feelings.

    You really have to try to move on, there's probably no other way. Try to keep your mind off her... I'm having troubles with guys too. -_-
    Hang in there. (:
  • Jul 24, 2008, 05:22 PM
    marriaget
    hahaha I just read these comments. I don't see what they have to do with your question but.. haha =]
  • Jul 24, 2008, 05:27 PM
    ylaira
    marriaget, didn't u leave dora on your couch? Ha ha ha
  • Jul 24, 2008, 05:32 PM
    DSJ05
    I'm guessing ylaira and marriaget know each other! Lol
  • Jul 24, 2008, 05:34 PM
    ylaira
    She's the 13 yr old girl who's having 2nd thoughts of getting hook with a 17 yr old lad.

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