Ask Me Help Desk - Girl needs space.

OK me and my girlfriend have bin togethere for a year technicly but we went out in 8th grade for 4months and I broke up with her but we got bak together summer going to 10th so like a year later she waited fore me all that time she alwayes called me and thing in hopes we would get back together and we did. Now that we reached a yhear were fighting and stuff and she said she needs space but still wants me to say I have a girlfriend if people ask and she is ganna say she has a bofriend but were broken up. I don't know what this means sum 1 help me I rilly truly love this girl and I no she loves me

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All right big pimpin', let me lay it out for you, considering my girlfriend (of 2.5 years) and I took a few breaks (2 being like... a week or two, because she was going through problems at home and needed to take care of them without bringing me down) and a 3 month hiatus because she was confused about her life, relationship, job, school, major, etc. and Wanted to make sure that I was as much of a needed aspect in her life as she wanted me to be.

You're a sophomore bro, there's tons of little cuties walking around in school. You're girl wants a break, give her one, but you have no reason to still say you have a girlfriend. If she says that she will say she has a BF but that you are broken up, that negates the fact that you are boyfriend and girlfriend!

Don't call her, if she calls you, pick up the phone, be chill around her. Don't say things like "I miss you baby, can we get back together pookie" or whatever you teens are saying now (and mind you, I'm only 20, class of 2006 baby!) You need to make it clear that if she is going to play games with you, that you are walkin' away. The second you let her do this, she will use it to her advantage any time she see's another cute boy she likes, or is mad, or is PMSing, or anything of the sort. I made that mistake once before, and now I've stood my ground, regardless of how much I loved my girlfriend and wanted to support her even when she was hurting me.

Let's just give you a summary;

-Don't call her.
-Don't text her.
-If she calls, pick up without acting like her boytoy.
-If she texts, wait like 20-30 minutes then reply, but keep it short and sweet.
-Don't be all over her if you guys see each other a lot. Matter of fact, try to avoid her without looking like you are purposely doing so.

The key here is to keep her guessing, keep her on her toes, and then by doing so the ball is in your court. She'll come crawling back in no time, and if that's what you want, then take her back with the expectation she may do it again. I would suggest if you take her back, make it perfectly clear that if she does this again, that you're done with the relationship. Playing games are no fun.

Goodluck

Kevin, you are too funny. I think you're one of my new favourite people

Ok, I have to agree with Kevin in that you are only a sophomore and she's playing all sorts of games with you. She wants to keep saying y'all are bf/gf but you're broken up. That doesn't fly. Either you are or you aren't, and I'm sure there are a TON of cute girls in your school.

I'm sure you do really like her, but why would you want to be with someone that you fight with all the time? Do you enjoy fighting with the person you "love"? And would you really want to be with someone that needs space but doesn't want to let go? I know that if I told my job I needed space, they'd say "well, there's space at the unemployment office" and off they'd send me. I would no longer have a title.

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Originally Posted by Rockstar714

Kevin, you are too funny. I think you're one of my new favourite people

Ok, I have to agree with Kevin in that you are only a sophmore and she's playing all sorts of games with you. She wants to keep saying y'all are bf/gf but you're broken up. That doesn't fly. Either you are or you aren't, and I'm sure there are a TON of cute girls in your school.

I'm sure you do really like her, but why would you want to be with someone that you fight with all the time? Do you enjoy fighting with the person you "love"? And would you really want to be with someone that needs space but doesn't want to let go? I know that if I told my job I needed space, they'd say "well, there's space at the unemployment office" and off they'd send me. I would no longer have a title.

I've been with my girlfriend over 2 and a half years (4 months before we graduated from high school) and I personally think it's adorable when she's mad. =) Fighting is a whole different story... I'm the kind of guy that wants to sit down, write out the issues and knock them out and fix them, she's the kind of person that needs to be left alone to clear her head.

This guy needs to go get himself a little cutie to have on his arm and take to the dances ;)
"Ballin'!"

Just because she brings up this crazy, insane idea, doesn't mean you should go along with it. Just tell her, No games, and stick to it, and give her plenty of space, as she may have some more whacky ideas for you.

"To the left, to the left. If you wanna leave, be my guest, you can step. Feelin' irreplaceable, listening to Beyonce...well that's okay, I'll put you out on your B-day!"

Tell this chick to go play games elsewhere, you're better than that.

My boyfriend tries to pick fights with me because its been 9.5 months and we haven't fought yet. He's used to daily fights with his ex's that result with black eyes (on him) and such.

But having a relationship in which you fight ALL THE TIME isn't worth it. She wants the space, give it to her. No games. Just give it all to her straight.