Is my husband getting treated fairly in court
I met my husband 4 years ago. He had lost his licence due to a 2 DUI's. He was just within a few months of getting them back. He drinks occasionally but he doesn't drink and drive. Him and this girl that he lived with 9 years ago has 2 girls, ages 11 and 13 now. She has custody of the girls. It was a mutual split up. We got married almost 2 years ago. She took him to court a few times before we were married in 2006. At that time, she told the judge he was an alcoholic and that she didn't like us taking the girls around our friends when we played cards. The judge sided with her and said that he could not drink at all when he had the girls every other weekend. We also could not play cards when they were around. So when holidays came around and the family wanted to sit around playing Tripoly or other games, we had to say no. At the time, my house was across the street from a bar and grill. The judge said that we could not get extended visitation because of where we lived. We are not married and have bought a house in a nice area. Last weekend we took the girls to our hometown picnic. The oldest girl wanted to stay with some friends at a campout that night and she begged until my husband said OK. He didn't get to the picnic until around 9:00 that night. It was hot and he stayed home and did yard work. When he got there, he decided to drink a few beers. He sat in the lawn chair most of the time. When it came about time to go, around 11:30, the olderst daughter came to me and said she was worried about leaving the youngest girl with us since their dad was drinking. I said "you mean you dont trust your her with me and your dad" she said "No" Dads drinking and he isn't suppose to be. I told her that if she was so worried about it, then she shouldn't go to the camp out, she can just come home. She got mad and called her mother with my husbands cell phone. He gave it to her so she can call if she needed us. Her mother came, with the court papers and asks 2 cops to be with her. They told Eric that the mother was there and was concerned about there safety. Eric told then that he has only had 4 beers. I told them that I didn't have any and I was driving. I don't drink. They told Him that they weren't going to lock him up but suggested that we let the mother take them home, so he agreed. My husband loves his girl very much. It broke his heart that his oldest daughter would do that to him. She has been causing a little problem lately. We can tell the her mother has put stuff in her head, turning her against their dad. We have thought about trying to get joint custody to try to stop her from turning the girls against him but we are afraid the court would just laugh, considering how they have treated him in the past. I am worried of what lengths the daughter would go to, if we did get joint custody, to cause trouble for us. We don't know what to do. Does this all seem fair. Could someone please help with some advice. Thank You