Ok, I will try and keep the story brief.

I am physically attracted to a girl who I met recently. She has made no secret of the fact that she likes me also. She is doing all of the chasing. Texting, calling, emailing everyday, all day. It is too much for me. My friends know this girl and she a lot of mental problems. One of them has warned me about her saying she cheats and is just mentally crazy. I do question his motives (he likes her) but she does do mad things like just getting naked in the street, or cutting all of her hair. Also she has an eating disorder which makes it more difficult. I worry about her, however and I can't help but feel the more I push her away and ignore her, the more she chases. I don't want to be rude but it has got to the point where I am scared to give her my address because I worry she will come over every night and never leave me alone, in a bunny boiler psycho kind of way! Funny but there is a serious side to this.

Although kind of sexy, what should I do. As I initially stated, I feel an attraction to her. Although her clinginess really freaks me out. Like if I try to leave when I am with her, she will push me down or to the side and get really angry.

I want to help, but I also don't want to lose everything I have. If she is like this now then what will the relationship be like?

Run very fast, as far as you can from this girl.

You know that she has MASSIVE ISSUES. You can't help her, she has to do that on her own. Find someone who doesn't need so much help.

--Cali

Yea, just because you're attracted to someone doesn't mean squat!! She is not healthy and she will drag you down deep with her..

Going naked in the middle of the street is way weird.. maybe you could talk to her parents about getting her some help.. but don't get too involved.. it's not your responsibility to fux this girl..

If you want to mess with someone that's crazy then you might have a lot of problems if you get involved with her.

I've a friend that's have split personalities and it scares me at times. Now with medicine she's a little better but still does up the wall things and that makes me not want to hange around her and I can only take her in small doses but I try not to be harsh to her but its hard.

Your be attractive to a lot of people but have to control it. My crazy friend is very attractive and guys hit on her all the time but can't deal with her but try because of her looks. Do you know if she takes medicine or what disorder she has besides eating?

You need to make your mind up and decide if you want someone who stable or unstable because having a friend who't not is hard and at one time she harass me so back and keep coming to my house to where I had to get the cops involved.

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Originally Posted by KG935

I am physically attracted to a girl who I met recently. She has made no secret of the fact that she likes me also. As I initially stated, I feel an attraction to her.

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"KG935" when you're soooo attracted to this girl,that it's become a physical attraction, why do you put an illness before that? :eek:

Surely,as they say,love conquers all? :)... Or,is there someone whom you've allowed to get in the way? (e.g.a friend who says that she has mental problems) some friend :eek:

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I do question his motives (he likes her)

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You already question his motives,yet you're going to let him ruin,what could
Be, a really good friendship with this girl. :(

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I want to help, but I also don't want to lose everything I have.

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Now we get to the CRUX of this question~~~>>> you want to both help her but at
The same time not to lose anything!!

Well,you CAN'T have your cake & eat it. Anyway,I thought that a relationship
Was about give and take?

You are intrigued and attracted to the fact that she is different and not afraid to just do things others would not. Do not mistake that for relationship material! That is no basis for a relationship so you definitely do not want her to think you are interested. Do not give her your address, do not lead her on in any way. In fact you may have to tell her to leave you alone.

If you can't stand the heat..!

This is my first post, but I would like to add that obviously this girl is not relationship material. It doesn't matter that she's attractive or how you feel about her, you can't put a square peg in a round hole. She will never be able to give you a stable relationship, based on what you've said, so just cut your losses.

And as a side not, and I mean this somewhat jokingly, since she is pursuing you even more when you push away, if you really want to get rid of her, tell her you love her and see how fast she runs.

Thank you for all of the replies.

There is some useful advice there. We are still talking however via text message etc and I saw her last night. She was the same as usual. Very clingy and it took me 30mins from when I said I was leaving, to when she let me leave. I can't tell her that I don't like her to her face because I do. And I can't lie like that. The more I see her and think about her, the more I am attracted to her. Physically attracted. I don't know if I want a relationship either with her, or if its just physical? There is something really sexy about taming her... and I can't deny that it feels good to have a hot girl chasing me so much.

I do tell her to leave me alone (in a joking sort of way!). Like if she keeps following me around in a club or something, or constantly grabbing my hand. But is it so wrong to lead her on if I want to? Like I said, I can't lie and say I don't like her.

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happy_jester Well,you CAN'T have your cake & eat it. Anyway,I thought that a relationship was about give and take?

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Generally, when I have cake, I do eat it! What is wrong with that? Are you suggesting I want everything/ too much?

Please help, I have too much to lose - I have a good job, friends etc...

If you want to be her friend you have to be up front and tell her friends only and mean it and not give her mixed signals. She most likely will fall hard for you anyway but at least be up front and honest about it.

I agree N0help, be upfront or you will lead her on and it will hurt her even more than the honesty now