I put up a previous post of my boyfriend that cheated... but is there any chance in this world that if I forgive him it might actually work out? Because he is sacraficing something huge he said because his college is an hour away hell stay at his aunts house so he can be here to see me a lot. He won't go out to bars anymore and this is huge for me. Any chance guys? Has anyone passed this bumpy road and all is well now?? Helpp please rite me if you have experienced this or know of...

Well, I'm a guy, and I'm a forgiving guy, but I hate cheaters and have been cheated on before, and I don't accept it, so I have never tried, because the trust level would never be the same! But if he is trying to make a huge sacrifice like that maybe he is really sorry and will never do it again! But you can just never know!

I still stay firm for once a cheater always a cheater. I had an ex of mine cheat, I took her back after she said she would stop doing the things she did. Which she did, she just did other things behind my back and eventually cheated again.

Forgive, but don't take the cheater back.

My ex cheated (as I replied on your previous post) and we started talking about working things out, but thankfully it never happened because he was a little too open with all the girls he had cheated on his current girlfriend with. He promised he'd change. We've been apart for almost 3 years and he still does the same old thing.

Take it slow with him. Date, don't jump into a committed relationship with him right away and see if he changes. Then slowly progress with the relationship if you see the positive changes you're wanting to see and he's living up to his promise. But as you said in your previous post, he said he kissed girl, changed his story to slept with her and has "kissed" two more girls since he's been away... its your call.

Proof is in the pudding, so wait until he does what he says, and over time. This board is full of people who have been cheated on over and over, because they loved someone.

Be smart and let him stew in his own juice, while you make yourself happy.

Once a cheater, always a cheater. They will always find an excuse to do it, a justification for it, and usually not feel bad about it until they are caught. He'll do it again if you tell him you are accepting his behavior, and that's what you are doing if you stay. And on top of that, this is a long distance relationship.

Let yourself heal, like someone said let him stew in his own juices. And maybe losing you will allow him to change FOR SOMEONE ELSE.

Give it time to let him prove himself before you actually agree to taking him back.
Rebuild your relationship at a slow rate.
One of my best friends and my sister gave their cheating husbands a second chance.
My boyfriend husband had been a one time affair that he truly was sorry once he came back.
I think my sisters husband was a repeat cheater and they are doing okay but I have no idea if he is being faithful this time around or not.
I have heard of positive stories but it all depends on where his heart is.

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I still stay firm for once a cheater always a cheater. I had an ex of mine cheat, I took her back after she said she would stop doing the things she did. Which she did, she just did other things behind my back and eventually cheated again.

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I totally agree, dump the loser and find a man who knows your worth!!

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Once a cheater, always a cheater. They will always find an excuse to do it, a justification for it, and usually not feel bad about it until they are caught. He'll do it again if you tell him you are accepting his behavior, and that's what you are doing if you stay. And on top of that, this is a long distance relationship.

Let yourself heal, like someone said let him stew in his own juices. And maybe losing you will allow him to change FOR SOMEONE ELSE.

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So are you saying that when he realizes what he lost... he could change his ways.. but never towards me? :(

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so are you saying that wen he realizes wat he lost...he could change his ways..but never towards me? :(

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No, we're saying that cheaters have the tendency to cheat.

Just like trained infrantry men & women.
Their first kill is the hardest part since they've never actually pulled the trigger on a human being. But after a while, it's normal for them.

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so are you saying that wen he realizes wat he lost...he could change his ways..but never towards me? :(

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Hpoefully you will be healed and happy, and he still may not get it.

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so are you saying that wen he realizes wat he lost...he could change his ways..but never towards me? :(

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You deserve better then him. I know that you probably care about him, but if he really cared about you then he would have never cheated on you. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and he would never think about cheating on me. I once had a boyfriend who cheated on me and I forgave him and got back with him because he begged me and told me that he loved me and blah blah blah. Well he ended up doing it again behind my back with a different chick, which I found out about it before I had slept with him again. So, I broke up with him and a couple of weeks later found out that he had contracted a STD from the chick he cheated on me with. So, if I would have slept with him again I would have gotten it as well. You need to be careful of what you do because there are so many people in my generation who are contracting STD's and getting pregnant with dead beat daddy's. So, be careful and don't take that dude back. You can find someone better then him anyway. Oh, and FYI most long distance relationships don't work because of our own human nature to want affection. Good luck with everything and I hope you make a good decision.