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  • Jul 22, 2008, 11:22 PM
    benton2008
    Signing of Rights
    A good friend of mine will be having twins in a about 7 months and is willing to sign one over to me to raise. I can't have children as I have been fixed for 11 years. But I do not want to get excited until I know that it is possible for me to do so. So my question to you is will this baby be legally mine just by signing over the rights and what rules, regulations, stipulations, etc.. Go along with doing it this way?
  • Jul 23, 2008, 05:46 AM
    Synnen
    You and your friend both need to talk to a lawyer, preferably together.

    She can't "sign rights over to you". It doesn't work that way.

    She could sign away her parental rights to one of the children, but you would ALSO need the biological father to sign away HIS rights to that child as well.

    THEN you would need to file adoption papers for the child and legally adopt it.

    However--i'm going to counsel you against getting excited anyway. She's only 2 months pregnant, and I'm sure she's in shock about it being twins. Those first couple months of pregnancy, especially if unplanned, are kind of unreal--It's hard to actually imagine that you're carrying a baby/babies. And, if it's unplanned, you think of all the negatives about the situation first--"how can I afford this?" and "I can't begin to figure out how I'd take care of TWINS!" and "what am I going to do?"--rather than the good and exciting things about being pregnant. At 2 months pregnant, she hasn't thought about how fun twins could be, or that she'd be giving away a child to you--she's probably still in shock, and thinking of handing you a burden, not her baby.

    So... talk to a lawyer. Talk to your friend. Support her and let her know you understand that she's under a lot of stress, and that if she REALLY wants to do this, you should do it right. Get a lawyer, both of you go to counseling and try to understand what adoption really means--this is especially important for HER. Adoption is forever, and you seldom understand what you are giving up until it's too late.

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