Ask Me Help Desk - I Really Like My Friend.

Hi, Id just like help on what to do..
I am a 16 year old male and I have a bunch of friends and we all like football and playing PS3 and all of that stuff...
Anyway, we always joke around and stuff and call each other 'babe' and things like that as a joke, not taking the piss out of gays, we even know a gay, someone I have known since we were 4..
Anyway, I really like one of my friends now, I have known him for about 3 years but only for the last year at most have I been talking to him almost everyday.
As I said I really like him and I told him I really like him, but as we've joked before, he thought I was joking, I said I wasn't joking but he still thinks I am joking.
I don't want to keep saying I really like him and I am not joking because well, that's just creepy :D
It was when he wanted to tell me a secret and I told him I liked him, then he said he has secrets but he says he can't tell me, as much as he would like too... :S
Then he said it could be that he likes someone, could be a male, could be a female he said.. I think he's joking around trying to make me think he likes me or something but I am the same as him really, we have joked around and I wouldn't believe him..
I also want him to tell me the 'secret' to put my mind at rest. I don't think it is that he likes me but he gives hints as if it is and I just want him to tell me so that I can just know he doesn't like me like that and that he's straight and I should move on..
So, what shall I do?
None of my friends know I am bi and I don't want them to know, I only want this one friend to know... because I really like him, I trust him that he will keep it secret.. I just want him to actually believe me and I want to know if the secret is that he likes me like that..
Sorry about how much I go on.. goodbye :D And thanks whoever takes the time to answer this, aslong as its not a piss take or just telling me to go away or whatever, I will appreciate every reply :D Thanks again.
EightEleven91

I think u should sit him down and let him know that he can always confide in u. Try just being friend and if the secret is that he likes, tell him that u feel the same way about him, or if the secret is something else, still let him know that u truly like him because he could feel the same way about u but is too afraid to say so. Hope my advice works! :) ! -

SadGirl123

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Originally Posted by sadgirl123

i think u should sit him down and let him know that he can always confide in u. Try just being friend and if the secret is that he likes, tell him that u feel the same way about him, or if the secret is something else, still let him know that u truly like him because he could feel the same way about u but is too afraid to say so. Hope my advice works! :) ! -

SadGirl123

Thanks but I don't know when the best time is to talk to him about it.:confused:

My friends been weird with me lately, he hasn't spoken to me for a few days now, we've seen each other but he hasn't actually spoke to me properly..
This could be normal because he's realising his mate finds him attractive which is perfectly normal if that's why he's abit weird for a few days..
But I don't know :S

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Originally Posted by hottJen

Umm, I am a straight girl, but I don't judge. You are who YOU are. Good luck. If you like him and he's a true friend talk to him when the mood is more serious-That will come. If he feels the same way, well, do what you feel is best. If he does like you-Will you date? Publicly? Remember how judgemental people can be.... Just do what YOU feel is right. But if I were in that situation I would just date the opposit sex-but that's just me. Good luck and I hope this helps. P.S. I am a teen too!

Yeh, if I had the choice I wouldn't exactly choose to be in this situation but sadly I cant, and I do really like him.
Would I date him? Not sure, knowing as you said how judgemental people are. If he did like me I wouldn't just ask him out anyway, we would have to see what happened.
But like I said, I couldn't choose this and there's nothing I can do about liking him so much, something I have to live with.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell.

It might ruin the friendship cause he's not taking you seriously =/

*sigh* this is a difficult situation =/

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Originally Posted by hottJen

Good Luck!;)

Thanks...
Its just annoying now because when I do try and say how much I like him the conversation just dies afterwards and I always have to start a new conversation..
I don't mind what he says just aslong as he actually says something after I tell him! So annoying..

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Originally Posted by EightEleven91

Hi, Id just like help on what to do..
I am a 16 year old male and I have a bunch of friends and we all like football and playing PS3 and all of that stuff...
Anyway, we always joke around and stuff and call each other 'babe' and things like that as a joke, not taking the piss out of gays, we even know a gay, someone I have known since we were 4..
Anyway, I really like one of my friends now, I have known him for about 3 years but only for the last year at most have I been talking to him almost everyday.
As I said I really like him and I told him I really like him, but as we've joked before, he thought I was joking, I said I wasnt joking but he still thinks I am joking.
I dont want to keep saying I really like him and I am not joking because well, thats just creepy :D
It was when he wanted to tell me a secret and I told him I liked him, then he said he has secrets but he says he can't tell me, as much as he would like too... :S
Then he said it could be that he likes someone, could be a male, could be a female he said.. I think hes joking around trying to make me think he likes me or something but I am the same as him really, we have joked around and I wouldnt believe him..
I also want him to tell me the 'secret' to put my mind at rest. I dont think it is that he likes me but he gives hints as if it is and I just want him to tell me so that I can just know he doesnt like me like that and that hes straight and I should move on..
So, what shall I do?
None of my friends know I am bi and I dont want them to know, I only want this one friend to know...because I really like him, I trust him that he will keep it secret.. I just want him to actually believe me and I want to know if the secret is that he likes me like that..
Sorry about how much I go on.. goodbye :D And thanks whoever takes the time to answer this, aslong as its not a piss take or just telling me to go away or whatever, I will appreciate every reply :D Thanks again.
EightEleven91

I say you kiss him =)

WOOOO

Haha... good luck brah.

So wait.. you're a guy and he's a guy? Or are you a girl? K your a guy, k.

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Originally Posted by Rabbit91

I say you kiss him =)

WOOOO

Haha... good luck brah.

So wait.. your a guy and hes a guy? Or are you a girl? k ur a guy, k.

Yeh I'm a guy and no I wouldn't just want to kiss him xD
Well I would but I don't think he would like it if he's straight :D

Right I recommend that you go somewhere you like going and at the end or at a stopping point say to him the facts and the information. You have just got to get your timing right :)