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He may realize that he loves you, but going off to college is a new thing to him. He's going to be making new friends, and only seeing each other every couple weeks is trying for ANY relationship, especially one where there are new people and new opportunities around every corner. He also may realize that it'd be a strain on both of you emotionally and he wouldn't want that for you.
Put yourself in his situation, what if you were going to college but it was in another state than your boyfriend?

I will not try and sayit is going to be easy, it will take a lot of hard work. But all you can do is try.

There is no guarantee in affairs of the 'heart' no matter what age we are. But, I think you are being too clingy and pushy, and that's why he is distancing himself from you. Could it be that you want him to 'prove' his love by giving you an engagement ring or asking you to marry him? Hey, this is unrealistic, after only being together for 7 months, and you still going to school.

You should be concentrating on your education and future and not depending on someone else to place you in the center of his universe. He has a right to get his education, look for a good career perspective, and make new friends - and there is nothing you can do about it. The only control you have is over what you do with your life and how you cope with the choices you make.

We are in the year 2008 and not in a TV show that shows you that all high-school loves have a happy end. Not even real life always has a happy end and we just have to face that fact.

So, if you want to keep his friendship and hope it grows, don't pressure him and enjoy the time with him without asking him to tell you how much he loves you all the darned time. Get real and grow up. He might be your first real love, but he won't be the last, not at this age in your life... so give yourself a break and don't be in such a hurry to come to a standstill in your life that hasn't even begun to develop yet.

Sorry if I was a little 'blunt', but you need to take off those rose-colored glasses, dear.

Life still has so much to show you, so relax and live it.
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Chery,
I leave for scotland in 2 weeks and I ask my boyfriend how he feels about me so that we won't be in a awkward place when I don't see him for a month. I am a very level-headed person and I know that he may or may not be the one and I do expect him to change while he's at college but I don't see that as a reason for us to break up right now. I want to try to work it out with him in college. It is not unreasonable to ask your boyfriend where you stand in his life, especially at a time when a huge change is about to occur.

Oh and thanks rockstar714 and fr_chuck, both your pieces of advice are very helpful

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chery,
i leave for scotland in 2 weeks and i ask my boyfriend how he feels about me so that we wont be in a awkward place when i dont see him for a month. i am a very level-headed person and i know that he may or may not be the one and i do expect him to change while he's at college but i dont see that as a reason for us to break up right now. i want to try to work it out with him in college. it is not unreasonable to ask your boyfriend where you stand in his life, especially at a time when a huge change is about to occur.

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Dear, it's never unreasonable to communicate and ask questions. It could be though, if you expect answers that not even he knows yet. Your trip will give him time to miss you - that's one answer I'm sure of. Other than that, who knows.

Take the time away from each other to reflect on things and find out what you will miss about each other - that's the normal thing to do. Also, have fun instead of fretting about the future. You'll find out soon enough when you see each other again - and it might be a pleasant surprise. Like I said before, there is no guarantee, but I do wish you all the best.
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