I went through a bad breakup in April and my life has crashed all around me. I do believe I have had issues with self esteem and depression. I think the breakup was more of a catalyst for this major depression that I am in right now. I have been seeing a therapist weekly for about 9 weeks now and it seems to be helping a little. I still have a hard time falling asleep and no appetite. All of the hobbies and things I used to do don't interest me anymore. My days are long and sometimes I cry for no reason. I have just starting taking Zoloft to get my head straight so I can hopefully make my therapy more effective. Can anyone give me a heads up or any other ideas for help.

You have to know that after a very unhappy breakup with someone you love that there is going to be *natural* depression and unhappiness... that is reality. It is natural to be miserable during some episodes of your life... time is what helps you come out of these episodes, time and talking about it and crying and mourning.

Make sure you cry a lot when talking with your therapist; let the therapist see you mourn. Accept helpful words and don't argue at all. :)

All of your symptoms are classic signs of depression. Many people are more disposed to depression after a break-up. In fact, a lot of people believe that divorce can be emotionally compared to dealing with a death. You might have a lot of changes to deal with, too, and that can be very stressful.

Technically, if you do disagree with something your therapist says, it really is okay to say so. You might find their answers enlightening. I do agree, however, that you should trust your therapist. They are there to help you get to where you want to be, and they do know what they're talking about.

Don't worry if you're not feeling better just yet! Anti-depressants often take weeks or even months to become fully effective. You will still have to work to get there, but trust that you will come out of it as healthy as ever. Just give it time, and do things that make you feel happier. Your neuro-chemistry will follow.

Keep up with the medication and therapy!

Mean time, go out find things that you enjoy. Work out! Focus on yourself! Tan, the light will help!

Things will get better! Keep your head up!