Hi I am a 30 yr old mom of 2. I have a 9 yr old (almost 10) daughter from my first marriage and a 19 mo old with my current husband of 5 1/2 yrs. My ex husband walked out on me two weeks after I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter and has been very inactive in her life. My daughter calls my husband daddy and he has been in her life since she was 4. A week after my daughter turned 5 (Sept 03) she told her bio father that she never wanted to see him again. Two weeks after that he called demanding to see her but would not meet my husband he wanted to meet up with me. He has had no contact since and hasn't paid child support since Feb o4. My daughter wants my husband to adopt her and doesn't want to have anything to do with her bio father. She even states that she hates him. Could someone please help me figure out what I need to do. I know that the bio father will not sign over his rights even though he told me he would back in June 03. Any advise would be appreciated

When she gets 12 or 13 I think she has more of a say in whether or not she sees her father but until then I don't know what else can be done

Are you collecting child support? Does he owe back child support?

If so, you may have a negotiating tool.

I would talk to a family lawyer, lay out the entire story, and see what they have to say.

Hasn't paid Child support since 04'... that sure is a lot of backed money.

Contact a lawyer.

Ok, first in step parent adoption what the child wants has no bearing what so ever. The rights of the bio father will have to be either taken away or given away, And it is hard to take those rights away, in most states just not paying support and not visiting is not a reason to take them away.

Also a side note, the bio father does not have to "see" the new husband, and can refuse this is not part of his visits with his child. He can even ask the court to require a third party to pick up, so he does not have to even see you or new husband.

But if you start taking him back to court for support, it may weaken his concern about signing over his rights