Hi guys
I was recently on here asking if my ex was playing a game (which she defo is) and now I know the cheatin beotch is fading from my life I have my next problem...

I have a female friend of 3 years I want to ask out... but don't have the balls!
She's my best mates ex,ex and I've already told him I like her and he said go for it. He doesn't mind. He's seeing someone else and everyone gets on well with each other.
I've been chattin to her off and on through bebo (bit like myspace) and when I see her out and about. Last week I asked her if she wanted to be my partner at my other mates wedding in two weeks. I was crapping myself... and I did it by text message. But she said yes it'd be fun or words to that effect. We've been texting off and on the last few days and she is chatty in the messages and asks me what I'm up to etc. its not like short answers as if she wants me to stop.

She doesn't or has never liked my ex (like a lot of people I know) and my ex was deadly jealeous of her. I'm not doing this to wind my ex up, although I know she knows I'm taking her to the wedding and she isn't pleased.. oh no! I'm soooo scared! But I don't want to think my friend is doing it for that reason either. I don't think she is because she never brings up the ex in conversation, only when I first split with her. I do really like this girl and have majorly since she broke with my mate almost 2 years ago.

So... what do I do! I don't want to scare her off.
Should I wait until after the wedding to ask anything or see how the wedding reception goes? But its two weeks away. Ugggh! So long!

And one final question... does she still feel for her ex?. who is my best mate??

You know, jaywave, we can't predict what is going to happen to you or your ex, and your ex and anyone involved with your ex,but we don't know what sex you are so, can't tell about your ex.. We would really like to say that you will get what you want,but would that be the best thing for you ? In other words, jaywave, get a life and move on from the one you have.

And what part of our atmosphere do you come from ? Maybe the next wave on Jupiter ?

Have a nice day love !

Errrmm? Did I say something wrong? (quote)"...get a life and move on from the one you have..."??

I have a life thanks! Sorry if me being interested in my friend offended u. and I don't care about my ex or what she does. That wasn't the issue. What I do care about is maybe losing my friend or making things weird if I ask her out!

Thought some people here would maybe had a similar experience... which is why I asked!

... and I'm male... and my friend is female!! My ex was female to, hence the reference to her as "SHE".

Hey, cool it jaywave. You weren't telling us really anything about the situation. So read over what you originally posted and judge for yourself, mate. Now we know more. Oh heck, a menage e trois is really great for any relationship. So if you like the new one go for it, mate. Who needs all this cr***p with two females anyway.

I say don't ask her out until after you go to the wedding with her. If she says no I only like you as a friend I would imagine the wedding would be rather awkward. Go to the reception together and really see how it goes from there.

Good move asking your friend/mate if he was OK with you asking her out even if they did break up over two years ago. And who cares what your ex thinks!! Plus two weeks isn't that long to wait. Good Luck Have Fun!!

Go to the wedding with her, make plans immediately after the wedding for your next date. Have something fun lined up.