Hi, I am 18 and I have been with my boyfriend for a really long time now.

I have always been the strong and smart one.

I Just recently quit my Real Estate job and have been out of work for 2 months as I am trying to decide what career I am looking for.

With my relationship I am starting to feel really down on myself because I can't decide what I want to do and the only income I am getting is from the money my boyfriend is giving me. I also feel like crap every time he calls me and says "hey baby what you doing" I ALWAYS reply "nothin" because that is exactly what I'm doing NOTHING.
I hate is when he always says "im the provider now" because it makes me feel bad.
And I feel even worse knowing that my friends are at uni and working part time and I'm doing neither.

How do I feel important in my relationship again? And how do I figure out what I want to do with the career side of my life??


Help me please!!

I think by concentrating on your career interests and doing something about that right now is very important indeed for yourself esteem.

Please put this on the top of your list and take action,

Make inquiries locally and write letters.. point out all your good points and what you have achieved so far.

Don't sit around and wait, make it happen for you.

We don't always get the job that we want straight away,
So you have to sometimes do other jobs in between,
You may not always be able to rely on your boyf so..

In the interim, take up sum part time work, maybe voluntary towards a cause that is important to you or a hobby in order to occupy yourself.

Get positive and do something! Good luck!

Just curious, why quit one job, when another one was not on the horizon??

Our self esteem is usually tied to our independence, and accomplishments. Right now you have neither, and are confused as to the direction to go in. Why is that?

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How do I feel important in my relationship again? And how do I figure out what I want to do with the career side of my life??

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Get a job while you figure it out. Anything will do!!!!

What is holding you back from just having a job while you try and decide what you want to do with your life?
Even a part time job delivering pizza would help feel better about yourself.

Think about what you are good at and what you can see yourself doing. Maybe make a list and take some of those career tests.