HEy I'm new at this but I was wondering because me and my girl we dated for 1 year and 2 months before we had sex, at the time it seemed like a great desission but now we fight and argue more, because eithier I want to have sex and she don't, or I'm not really in the mood and she is so I try to anyway and she is not satified is this normal?? I need help lol!! :D And if I want to have sex and she don't should I get angry or just let it go, because you know I try for her shouldn't I ge the same oppurtunity as she did?? PLease help me!!

No, you should not be getting mad, sex has to be a mutual choice.

I would like to know how old are you and your girlfriend.

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I would like to know how old are you and your girlfriend.

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I am 19 and she is 20 and that didn't really answer my question

Sometimes more information is important in order to give a better answer, but if that is the way your going to be, your on your own.

You're a sex addict and you need a therapist. Your having problems communicate and if you can not confide in your girlfriend and all you feel is anger. Then you defiantly need counseling.

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper76

Sometimes more information is important in order to give a better answer, but if that is the way your going to be, your on your own.

Your a sex addict and you need a therapist. Your having problems communicate and if you can not confide in your girlfriend and all you feel is anger. Then you defiantly need counseling.

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Well I don't know what confide even is I'm not a sex addict and you don't know nothing about me and you say I can't communicate what ever, if you can tell my why I can't communicate and give me reasons I am a sex addict I will delighted to right you an apology

Your asking if it is okay to get mad at your girlfriend if she does not want sex.

You think that your problems started because you guys waited so long for sex. Sorry but majority of people who wait are in a better relationship.

As far as fighting and arguing, caused because of sex, did you or your girlfriend forget to talk about the sex thing together. Obviously it is a touchy subject and your not communicating it well to your girlfriend, or you would not be fighting as much.

What your experiancing is somewhat normal... Your on, she's off. She is on, your off. It is called communication with each other and understanding and patience with each other.

So with that all said. Counseling is recommended for BOTH OF YOU. Get all your problems and issues out in the open and then you both will learn a new way of communicating to one another about sex and then hopefully both of you will be better off.

Communication is key to a healthy relationship, if you both can't accept each other for who and what you are, and you're already arguiing about sex, then go your separate ways.

I agree with Joe, it's time for counselling.

Maybe she needs more than sweating, and grunting, as female always need attention away from the bedroom, so they can feel they ARE LOVED, and will want to GIVE LOVE, so they MAKE LOVE, to someone they LOVE. Make sense.

All that starts with good communications, as opposed to arguing and confrontation.

Even though it is difficult or frustrating, I do agree that getting angry when your girlfriend does not want sex is wrong. However if you show her that sex is not very important to you then she might want to do it more. I have found that women enjoy not always being asked to have sex. The fact that they are the pursuer is new and excited in many situations.