I have been with my boyfriend now for just over 2 years, it was going fine at the beginning, but the at xmas he though I was cheating on him becaused he found some text messages from one of my friends on my phone. Ever since then things have been good and bad, for a couple of months we have been been great together and then a couple of weeks ago I spoke to a friend of mine and told her that I think our relationship is more then just sex. Once I told my boyfriend this he went funny, he told me that once I told him this he thought about xmas and said that he wants to see less of me like how we were when we first got together. But I am struggling to deal with this because I love him and I miss him too much. He still tells me he loves me but I asked him if he would still wish he was single and he said he doesn't know and he has lost a lot of respect for me. I don't want to loose him, what shall I do to make this work?? :confused:

A couple of weeks ago I spoke to a friend of mine and told her that I think our relationship is more then just sex. The only thing I get from this is either he likes keeping his sexual stuff private or he is using it as an excuse to hold something against you. Unless you told your friend more than simply that sentence I don't see why he would hold it against you to the degree that he feels he has to see less of you and has less respect for you

Maybe if you two take a break you could look for other men that would feel the same about you but I don't know. If you really love this man than you could try to make it work, I have no doubt that you could.

Thanks for your answers, I do love him and I want to make it work, I don't want to look for other men because all I look for in a man I have with my boyfriend. He makes me feel special but its just that he doesn't want to see me that often that makes me feel like he doesn't want me, he still talks to me when I phone and when I do see him it feels special. I don't know if he is trying to make it the way it used to be when we saw each other less because we didn't argue as much back then. I think if we do see each other less we can make it work??

Communicate and work together. That simple. You both sound pretty young, how old are you?

Sounds like you 2 need to see a relationship counselor