My stepdad lost his job in April. He has since been job hunting THREE TIMES in the past four months. He says he's not looking because he's waiting to see "what the lord is going to do" because jesus just drops jobs from the sky :rolleyes: . I have had several my friends offer to help him get a job a various places(walmart as a greeter, the local military base as a janitor or on a factory line where they put airplane engines together). My moms friend has offered to help him he refuses stating again "hes waiting on God" :rolleyes:

Since losing his job he is driving my mom and me crazy he's constantly is running around trying to boss us around as to what we should buy vs what we shouldn't buy with our own money. He refuses to help at all around the house since losing his job. Hell eat and then just leave his plate on the counter(its a paper plate all he has to do is throw it in the trash) for someone else to clean. My mom (since she's the main bread winner now) buys groceries and he refuses to help bring them in the house. He also refuses to help put them in the fridge. He just lays around the house all day doing nothing except occasionally (note the word occassionaly) mowing the lawn.

Since I am doing my part whilst I am forced to live with my mom(its either that or be homeless) I cook dinner. Hes acts like a child about the food I prepare. I made lemon chicken one day and all we had was drumsticks well I worked hard (it was elaborate recipe) on these stupid drum sticks and he had the nerve to open the oven and look and say "i dont like dark meat" and I told him that hed eat it if he got hungry enough. He got indignant and pouted yes I said pouted.

He then made a comment about me saying that he would be glad when "i get my hand out of thier pocket and in my own" I am out looking EVERYDAY for a job along with cooking dinner and cleaning the house up unlike him who has looked for a job THREE times since April and does nothing to help. He unlike myself has a car that he can drive everyday to go job hunting whereas I have to wait until my mom "feels" like letting me drive her car. We live in a rural area so I am without public transportation. I am trying unlike him.

I know that him not having a job is none of my business BUT my mom keeps dragging me into it asking me what should she do and do I think he's being lazy etc. I try to stay out of it and worry about finding myself a job.

What do I say to her when she asks me if I think he's being lazy? I mean I do personally think he's being lazy but again I'm trying to stay out of it.

What do I do when she comes to me complaining about him? Again trying to stay out of it he's not my husband thank God.

Just out of curiosity what is going on with him. Is there a deeper reason as to why he hasn't been looking for a job. I mean again trying to stay out of it but its hard not to wonder what the real deal is here?

Are all men like my stepdad? If so ill just start dating women from now on

Sounds like he is trying to use your mom's logic to appease her from keeping on him about looking


Print this out for him and tape it on the fridge

A religious man is on top of a roof during a great flood. A man comes by in a boat and says "get in, get in!" The religious man replies, " no I have faith in God, he will grant me a miracle."

Later the water is up to his waist and another boat comes by and the guy tells him to get in again. He responds that he has faith in God and God will give him a miracle. With the water at about chest high, another boat comes to rescue him, but he turns down the offer again cause "God will grant him a miracle."

With the water at chin high, a helicopter throws down a ladder and they tell him to get in, mumbling with the water in his mouth, he again turns down the request for help for the faith of God. He arrives at the gates of heaven with broken faith and says to Peter, I thought God would grand me a miracle and I have been let down." St. Peter chuckles and responds, "I don't know what you're complaining about, we sent you three boats and a helicopter."