He wants to take a break in a long distance relationship
Hi all!
Ok I'll try and make this short.
We were dating 2 years in NY and then he moved to CA for work. It's been an additional 4 yrs. Making it a 6 yr relationship..
Throughout we were fine! But he was always iffy on marriage.. very afraid, his parents divorced late in life and he says he had no good role models..
He's 38 by the way.. Im 33.
He has been daling with depression on his own. Doesn't talk to a therapist.. only his mom knew but she didn't seem to help him.
So we went on this nice trip for his sisters wedding.. then came his birthday.. and after that it went down hill.. he stopped calling as much, wouldn't answer my texts..
Then one day he says he needs therapy.. is taking lexipro which is a depression drug.. but hasn't gotten a therapist yet.
THEN he drops it on me.. Soo where is this going.. I think we need a break...
Im like break from what? We hardly see each other!
So he says he needs to figure out what he wants from his life, what to do.. he doesn't recognize himslef anymore.. he feels old.. marriage is final.. he said the baby the house.. I can't do it...
So I cried for 2 hrs on the phone with him.. yes I know. Asking why? How could he do this.. etc. so then he says OK forget I said anything..
Next day it came up again and he says
"cant you just do this for me?" so I finally said OK.
What does a break mean? I never did this before I said. We never said to not call... but that's what it has been.
I asked him how long will this be for he says with a bit of tone I don't know...
OK so its been 7 WEEKS No contact...
Our anniversary is next week. IM DYING to know if he'll call.. I mean he prob won't.. but.. I'm still hoping for flowers at least,. if he ignores it UGHH
So then my birthday is coming up the end of Aug.. I figured if he doesn't call me for that then I should call him?
What do you all think??
How long is TOO long on a break? Some people said 1 month is too long while Ive heard give him until the end of the year!!
I love him sooo much.. I believe he is trying to work this out.. he does have a messed of family life.. but cmon!
Any guys on here ever feel work stress, family stress and then just need to take a break to clear your head?
Help please I don't want to fall off the wagon and call him! I just cant! I don't even know what to say! :eek: