Am I nuts telling boyfriend that he can see the girl he is attracted to?
I am 29 (chinese girl look 20), he is 25(chinese born american, look 25). We have been dating for a year and half. We have been living together for 8 months. Before that we see each other every day and night. Things weren't the smoothest but he is a very honest and cute guy. I like him a lot.
I went to Europe for a month came back last week and notice something different from him, he was talking on phone at 2:00 am with a "friend" according to him, he has his phone with him most time unlike before. Last night he says he is going out to study with friends. I asked him who and he smiled and said a girl from his martial art club. And admitted that he is attracted to her although she has boyfriend and intended to stay that way. They saw each other during my time away almost everyday but no physical contact, just friends. I was devastated because I never had a boyfriend cheated on me before.
He says it is really hard for him because things are going good with us, I am really a great girl and cutter than the other one. But there is something unknown about her that attracts him, maybe because the fact that she is unattainable. He would like to find the perfect love and he thinks there might be someone more compatible with him than I am. But he is not sure if she is the one or maybe I am the one. He wants to take a break, but he is afraid to do so. He also says he wants to work things out between us.
I guess I was too desperate, I told him it's OK if he continues to see her but no physical contact so he can find out if she is more compatible than I am.
What should I do really?