Ask Me Help Desk - My friend wants to know

My friend wants me to ask a question because she doesn't want her parents to inspector gadget the computer and find out that she posted something sexual (hard core Christians)

Anyway, She says that she is a virgin but she has used a dildo and didn't get any satisfaction from it.She said she got no orgasm and it didn't feel pleasured.Only when she used a vibrator she gets clitoral orgasm.She wants to know if a penis will give the same dull feeling as the "toy".

/shrug

Hard to say.

Many women ONLY experience orgasm from clitoral stimulation anyway. If you have a good connection with the guy, though, and are willing to take the time to learn your body together, and the positions and stimulation you LIKE from sex --and are willing to be perfectly honest with it--then a penis is MUCH better than a dildo. A lot of that has to do with the connection to your partner, and the fact that you can lay back and enjoy it and not have to worry about stimulating yourself vaginally.

I don't have much luck masturbating with a dildo either. I prefer to use clitoral vibrators if I'm taking care of business myself.

Basically--sex is what you make of it. Some women never really get much from intercourse, some women love it better than any other sort of stimulation. Whether your friend enjoys it will be completely up to her and her partner.

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Originally Posted by blackblue

My friend wants me to ask a question because she doesn't want her parents to inspector gadget the computer and find out that she posted something sexual (hard core Christians)

Anyways, She says that she is a virgin but she has used a dildo and didn't get any satisfaction from it.She said she got no orgasm and it didn't feel pleasured.Only when she used a vibrator she gets clitoral orgasm.She wants to know if a penis will give the same dull feeling as the "toy".

She isn't ready... mentally she isn't into it and her body isn't ready. I had the same problem I could feel good that way but not when doing the actual deed and I realized it was because I Wasn't READY!! In fact I never felt good during actual sex until I was completely into the guy and I knew he was competey into me which wasn't until marriage. I know nobody wants to hear that now, but she should stay a virgin as long as possible because having sex right now isn't going to feel good to her anyway and she will live with regret. Your body is still forming right now, you don't get stimulation inside until you are more mature and your mind and body are in sink with each other. So if she isn't convinced I guess she can just go and try it but I guarantee she isn't going to really like it, I mean really, and than the one thing that is truly yours will be gone forever and the only remints will be regret... sorry so sobering but I know this to be true. So yes right now it will be dull and your life will never be the same... so do what you need to to get you by until you know you are ready and will enjoy it

I think that she is much too young at this point to get savvy about her orgasmic potential.

First of all, because she has overly religious parents and they tend to infantilize their children, in my opinion. Secondly, she shouldn't be sticking anything into her vagina because it does nothing for her.

Orgasms start in a woman's head. A woman has to be ready to *allow herself* to be turned on by what are her passion points and then surrender to the orgasm. A female can't be a "good girl" and accept someone else's descriptions of how she should express her sexuality, a woman is a unique sexual being, and she has to be hooked into that in order to have fully vibrant genitals. :)