I can't deal with my mother anymore!
I am at the point that I want to scream! A little background...
My mother left my dad when I was 7 and my brother was 4. I am now 23. She has come in out of mine and my brother's lives the entire time we were growing up. She has jumped from one guy to the next and would come and see us maybe 3-4 times throughout the year. She turned into a very heavy drinker, she started using meth and cocaine and couldn't hold down a decent job. Anything bad that happened in mine and my brother's lives happened when we were visiting her. She always had us around the wrong crowd of people and didn't even think twice about leaving us with people that were drunk off their asses or stoned out of their minds. She would call and say she was coming to pick us up for the weekend. My brother and I would sit for hours with our bags packed waiting on her and finally giving up because we knew she wasn't going to come.
I still had a yearning to have a mother in my life so I overlooked a lot of her flaws and still loved her no matter what. She ended up getting arrested in a drug ring about ten years ago and got off with a slap on the wrist, 10 years probation. She was 8 years into the probation and decides to stop going to her meetings and paying. She claimed they never look into it even though I warned her it would bite her in the butt. She was arrested and put in jail for 3 months. They released her with 10 more years of probation and a heavy fine. That was two years ago.
She had been doing well since that happened and actually held a job for a long time and stopped drinking so much. (she has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember) She was there for me through the birth of my son. She was paying her bills on time and keeping up with her probation requirements. That lasted about a year and now she has gone back into her old ways. She lost her job as a café cook and can't get a job anywhere else because of her felony and the fact that her license has been suspended due to traffic tickets. The only time she calls me is to whine about how broke she is and that her and her boyfriend can't even by groceries. They always have money for beer and cigarettes mind you. I am pregnant with my 2nd baby and I don't need the stress she is putting on my life.
She just called me today and said she wanted to come and spend a week with me. I live 5 hours away from her and she wants me to drive to pick her up and take her home. She is the most selfish person I know. I told her I couldn't do that and she went into this sob story about how everything is going wrong in her life and maybe seeing me and her grand baby will make things better. I have decided against letting her stay but I don't know how to tell her. I honestly want her out of my life. I can't handle her anymore. I don't know how many calls I get in the middle of the night because her boyfriend got drunk and beat her up or she needs some money for this or that. I never give her money because she still owes me a large sum that I let her BORROW when I was in high school. It has always felt like I am the adult and she is the child. The woman is 42 years old and can't even pay her own bills or get a descent job.
I really think I just needed a place to vent but I would like some people's opinions on ways I can handle her. This isn't even half of what she has done and is in trouble with but I know its already too lengthy. I have tried to get her to go to rehab or counseling and she won't do it. I have really just given up on her. :(
Any comments would be appreciated. :o