I have a? I met a guy online about a year ago and we were both in relationships and I did the big girl thing and stopped talking to him. Delt with my issues. Now I am single I looked him up and he is still in this relationship and has admitted to having several affairs since I stopped talking to him. 1. I have not slept with him. 2. I really think he is my soulmate 3. He lives in another state. Any suggestions...

If he willing to cheat on his current girlfriend what makes you think he won't do it to you

And why would you want to be with someone that is having affairs? He sure sounds like a winner. Maybe you should raise your standards a bit... just a thought. :P

Just weigh out the pros and cons too

PROS
1. still working on this one.. I'll get back to you...

CONS
1. not trustworthy 2. lives in a different state 3. makes you a home wrecker

And why would you want to be with someone that is having affairs? Sure sounds like a winner...

You make me laugh. Seriously, this guy HAD SEVERAL AFFAIRS, yet you are protecting his innocence. Stop. Just stop.

This is like a lawyer trying to defend a murderer.

You always have the option of saying "call/visit me when you're single". That way you don't close the door completely in case you are curious to see if he really is your soul mate. At the same time you maintain yourself respect (both in your view and his), AND you can avoid risking future jealousy/competition/guilt regarding the girlfriend.
Who knows... by that time you could have met someone wonderful and available who lives in town.

What makes you think he's your "soulmate"?

It seems like he has a lot of growing up to do and need to get his priorities straight and stop acting like a boy and be a man. How old are you and him by the way?

Remebe actions speak louder then words and tells you a lot about that person character.

If I was you I would right down your meaning of a soulmate and compare them tl his. Also, write down a list of things you look for in a man and I hope liar and cheater is not included.