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  • Jul 11, 2008, 09:31 AM
    armymomof2
    Why do men cheat?
    Very simple why do men cheat, and why do women sleep with married men?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 09:37 AM
    progunr
    Because they want to?

    Because they can?

    Because they don't value the relationship they are in currently?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 09:43 AM
    armymomof2
    Even when the marriage is happy, bills are paid, children are thriving, and the libido is satisfide, men still cheat.


    What I find worse though is, women who target married men. How could they?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 09:50 AM
    progunr
    Because they are just little tramps, sluts, low-lives, and despicable excuses for human beings.

    Hmmm, I felt a little better just saying that, hope you do too.
  • Jul 11, 2008, 09:58 AM
    NeedKarma
    Why do women cheat? Why do men sleep with married women?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:11 AM
    DaBaAd
    Psych behavior tells us that people always want something they can't have but once they have it they no longer want it. So they look for something else.

    This issue is as old as time.
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:13 AM
    armymomof2
    Nicley put. It is on all sides. I guess the better question is, why do people cheat with married people? So much pain is caused, when there are many single people in the world.
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:15 AM
    progunr
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DaBaAd
    This issue is as old as time.

    True.

    But when it happens to someone now, the pain and hurt are brand new, so what difference does it make, how old the issue is?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:17 AM
    DaBaAd
    My answer is that there is no "good" answer to this issue. So the question will endure forever.
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:18 AM
    armymomof2
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DaBaAd
    Psych behavior tells us that people always want something they can't have but once they have it they no longer want it. So they look for something else.

    This issue is as old as time.



    Absolutely, and well put. But humans have the ability to know that certain actions can have profound results on families. Is it selfisness then, that causes them to ignore the possibility?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:21 AM
    armymomof2
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by DaBaAd
    My answer is that there is no "good" answer to this issue. So the question will endure forever.


    You are very right, it will always be a question with out a hard answer. A new question then, if I may, is, are their any men (and women too for the men who are looking) that take monogomy as seriously as some of us, myself included?
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:21 AM
    DaBaAd
    Selfishness is one reason, however I would assume that since we have an innate desire to procreate, the drive to do this short circuits the logic in our heads. We are all affected by this. Unfortunately.
  • Jul 11, 2008, 10:33 AM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE
    Hello armymomof2,

    I was wondering, have you been cheated on? I'm sorry if you have.
    We (yes men and women) cheat because we are human and human instinct tells us, hey that's a good looking man/woman and then PING, we are sexually attracted. Humans can't help the way they feel.

    BUT

    As humans we are also capable of knowing what's right and wrong, such as having a consience. We can hold our temptations.

    So where do we go from here? I don't know. If a married person wants to cheat then I would say, get a divorce, never be married or in a relationship so that way you can have as many people as you want, sexually.

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