How can I get him to understand?
Hi so yeah I am an entertainer - a musician and recently now a model too. Well I sing and rap and of course 70% of the talent here in Albuquerque is male. So anyways the CEO of my label is male and the place I record at has - you guessed it - a man running things. But my boyfriend of 5 years and the father of my 2 year old daughter is okay with the fact I have to talk to and work with other guys generally. When I first met my boyfriend I told him point blank you have to be able to handle the fact I have to talk to guys for my music and my music comes first. This is my dream and NO ONE is going to stand in my way! I know a girl here in Albuquerque that got signed to Def Jam for a 10$ million contract and she gave it up for some guy. That is not going to be me!! Well he was fine then. A few weeks ago I started modeling for a local photographer that is female (luckily) but he still calls me 30 mins into my sessions for anything! The guy at the studio looks at me wierd because I am always getting calls when I am there and I can only stay like 1 hour! That is not very professional is it?? Obviously to be productive I need to spend alot more time in the studio. I do feel bad constantly leaving him to watch the baby but this is what I want to do this is my dream! I have told him lets get a sitter to watch her and you can go out while i am doing this and he said he rather spend the time with the baby. But he calls me and complains how he goes crazy with (terrible twos in progress) the baby sometimes. I have also invited him - but he doesn't like to go because he gets bored there. I really need to talk to him! What can I tell him? I do live by "Never mix business with pleasure" and I will never cheat on him. It's not worth it - I know what I have and I love him. I recorded a song for him and everything. But now that I am working on my debut album I really want to be able to record for several hours at a time. And I do modeling sessions every Wednesday which take 2 -3 hours and he calls me after 1 hr asking when you coming home. Then every 30 minutes after that just about and he told me last night (after 1 1/2 hours "u have been gone a long time already"! He needs to understand it takes time. I hate fighting with him over this and I don't want to lose him but I need to convince him to stop calling me so much when I am gone at the studio and to understand I will be gone for several hours at a time without fighting or bribing him!! PLEASE HELP!!!