Hey... My best friend and I have been really close for a long time. Our other friends always joked about us spending a lot of time together and that we would make a great couple. I love him a lot -but like a brother... never wanting to lose him over a breakup so the thought of dating never crossed my mind. But they he totally spilled that he has been crazy about me for months.. telling that he misses me every second that I'm away from him... I don't know what to do - the thought of dating is growing on me but I have a boyfriend that I love very much.. but then again I don't know if he feels the same way anymore. My best friend has been there for me all though the drama of my current boyfriend. He cares about me a lot and was so happy that I was thinking about it ( instead of saying no) I scared things are going to be different if we are more then friends and I don't want things to change.. any suggestions to what I should say to him would help.. also if anyone could give me advice of now staying cool around him.. I've changed so for the worst when I'm around him and he nos I'm scared and he wants to help... but I don't know if I should let him into another place in my heart...

First it is not a good idea to dump someone for someone else even if it is your best guy friend
If you feel your relationship is not going good now talk with your boyfriend about your relationship and how he feels it is going.
Then if you ever do break up and your best friend is still available and says he want to be bf/gf then discuss the pro's and con's with him and take it from there.

This is your best guy friend I know friendship is supposed to come before romance but in your case I would just simply tell him he's making you uncomfortable and your friendship means more to you than anything. Your friendship could get ruined forever if you date and then breakup. I'm not sure how you feel but if you really like him and want to risk it then go for it girl. We need to take more chances. Hope I helped mail me

Your best guy friend should realize that you're already in a relationship, for one. Breakups are hard on everyone emotionally, so he shouldn't confess all this to you hoping for a good reaction.

My best guy friend confessed his feelings for me for months, granted I wasn't in a relationship (serial dater, yes, relationship minded, no) but I kept telling him I wasn't ready to be in a relationship, when really I was thinking in my head that I wasn't ready to be in a relationship WITH HIM. He's the sweetest guy in the world, but I couldn't see myself with him. Then one day something happened (or a few drinks happened, however you want to look at it) and these sparks started flying and we casually dated for a few months, then we went official. But you can't force these feelings if you don't want them, because that just ends up hurting everyone.

If you don't feel like things are working with your current boyfriend, sit down and talk to him. If you don't reciprocate the feelings for your best guy friend, be honest and TELL HIM. Don't lead him on, whatever you do.

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Originally Posted by kelsee94

i love him a lot -but like a brother... never wanting to lose him over a breakup so the thought of dating never crossed my mind.

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It sounds like you answered you own question.

On the other hand they say love concurs all, but I feel that a friendship can concur all as well (even if you guys got together and then broke up). A friend is a friend…even if he’s an ex-boyfriend you just have to be able to work things out.

GOOD LUCK!!

Thanks guys - I have it figured out... I went and talked it out with my boyfriend and we are happily together and for my best friend... it was ugly.. and I'm glad I found that out before a made the wrong choice