My 13yr daughter keeps running away. She is always found at a friends house within the day but makes wild stories why she does not want to return to their parents. I have talked to Family human services about giving her up to a foster family but they say I can not. I have 2 other kids and am afraid this constant running away and stories will get her taken out of the house like she wants but also the other kids. I am bipolar and disabled because of it. I have her in counseling but when she goes everything is just peachy and she doesn't know why she is there. She has to have hollister and A & F. She was supposed to be in Miss Michigan let her grades fall to all F's so I gave her several chances to get them back up (with no success) so I pulled her from the competition. Her father does not want her nor does any of my family members. What can I do?

Have you reported her running away to the police, has she gotten into the juv justice system for running away??

To me it sounds like you need tighter rules.

Like FR_Chuck said, if she runs away let her know that you'll call the police.

If she wants expensive clothes, she can get a job and buy them herself.

If her grades don't get better then she's grounded- no phone, no friends, no computer, confined to room, if she doesn't come home on time then call her in as a runaway.

Might be harsh, but she sounds like a spoiled brat. If you tell her you're going to do something then DO it, or else she'll never listen to you.

The last time I did call the police for the first time and they treated me like I was the criminal. They told me normally they would not respond till she was gone 24 hours. In the mean time between phone calls to the national runaway hotline and the police the mail lady located her so the cop called were she was and told the parent to bring her back home because he was harboring a run away.

Hey, scare the crap out of the parents.

What kind of responsible parent lets their kids friend stay at their house for running away. If it were my parents she'd be driven back to your house in a heartbeat.

My daughter started doing that around the same age and it only got worse.
Find some way to get through to her. I haven't figured it out.
I know it is a problem.
I use to call around her friends houses and she would get mad saying it was embarrassing. I told her as long as you can't tell me where you are I will continue calling.
She ran away for a couple weeks when she was 17, she called everyday but wouldn't come home. She was cutting school by the time she was 16.
It doesn't get any better so find a way to get through.

Boot camp?

I have looked into that. The nearest one is 8 hous away and is only 48 hours for $500. But I am not ruling that out. I was able to get her into the Dr. and get her on mood stabilizers after I had her fill out a bipolar question form off the internet.

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Originally Posted by hopingforhelp

My 13yr daughter keeps running away. She is always found at a friends house within the day but makes wild stories why she does not want to return to their parents. I have talked to Family human services about giving her up to a foster family but they say I can not. I have 2 other kids and am afraid this constant running away and stories will get her taken out of the house like she wants but also the other kids. I am bipolar and disabled because of it. I have her in counseling but when she goes everything is just peachy and she doesn't know why she is there. She has to have hollister and A & F. She was supposed to be in Miss Michigan let her grades fall to all F's so I gave her several chances to get them back up (with no success) so I pulled her from the competion. Her father does not want her nor does any of my family members. What can I do?

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OK.. think of your last sentace
How do you think that makes her feel
There are probably things that you don't know about the are bothering her
Without proffesstionals there to make her uneasy.. sit her down and talk with her
She will rebel at first.. I know I would - but mothers and daughters have unexplanable bond
Even if you don't see it at first
Wish you the best

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Originally Posted by hopingforhelp

I have looked into that. The nearest one is 8 hous away and is only 48 hours for $500. But I am not ruling that out. I was able to get her into the Dr. and get her on mood stabilizers after I had her fill out a bipolar question form off the internet.

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If her problems are bad enough maybe you can get her into a boot camp through one of the day time TV shows. They usually do all expense paid to go through them.