Hey all,
So me and the ex are trying to give our relationship another shot. Like many of you, I smothered her and was clingy and needy. I now know that was wrong and stupid. This time around I'd like to fix those mistakes. To do this, many of you told me that I had to once again challenge her emotionally like in the beginning of our relationship. I'm just wondering how exactly I should do this... stuff like am I not always supposed to be available, not be a push over etc.. Thanks in advance.

Don't play games with her, the challenge is not forgetting the problems that ended your relationship before. That's challenge enough for you to worry about all of this. Just go about live your separating lives, enjoy life with her, without her. If that makes sense

Don't object to things she wants to do simply because you feel insecure or jealous. Let her have her space.
Allow her her space but know when to be there for her.
Think of things to surprise her like a small gift for no reason.
Go places she asks you (sometimes) even if it isn't really somewhere you like going
Let your actions speak louder than your words. Listen to what she has to say and show interest.

Thanks for the advice... anymore thoughts?

challenge is how trust completely w/o being complacent.