My husband & I have been married for 8 years. We have 3 children between us. I have 1 daughter from my prior marriage and he has 2 daughters from his. We have custody of all 3 of the children and I just recently finalized my adoption of his 2 children. I am so thrilled to actually be their official mother. However, I have always wanted to have another baby and we did discuss this before we married. He has always stalled me with what I imagine are somewhat typical male responses: It started with "I just got the youngest one out of diapers"; "we need to be more finacially secure"; "maybe when we buy a house"; "after I feel more comfortable with my new commission structure" to now just plain old "no, I don't want to!"

We have had 2 miscarriages. In 2004, we were using the rhythm method and took a chance on the timing. Well, I discovered we were expecting right after we closed on our house. Then the miscarriage. After some counseling in 2006, he finally warmed up to the idea and sprung HIS decision to allow me to become pregnant when we were on a trip with his company in Vegas (in the act). I was a bit irritated by his announcement at that time because it felt as though he's the only one that gets to decide. However, since it had been such a battle to get agreement, I was otherwise elated. We got pregnant a few months later, but it also ended in a miscarriage. He has been happy when I'm pregnant and supportive when I've miscarried even asking the doctor when we can try again. However, after the 3 months roll around, I start getting the usual answers from him.

I am now 38 and he is 36. I just recently quit my job to stay home and will probably just take on part-time work when school starts. Our daughters are now almost 14, 13 and 11. I feel as though he's just stalling me until I'm too old or the age gap is way too wide. I hear the clock ticking.

I am now 38 and he is 36.
Not young and dumb for sure.
I just recently quit my job to stay home and will probably just take on part-time work when school starts.
Can you raise 3 females on one check?? Be honest about that budget, as things will change and get tighter.
Our daughters are now almost 14, 13 and 11.
In seven years 4 grown females, don't know if thats good or bad, just a man veiw.
I feel as though he's just stalling me until I'm too old or the age gap is way too wide. I hear the clock ticking.
You've been thru this, and know how he feels, especially after 2 miscarriages, thats a consideration also. Men have no clue about a ticking clock, none at all. We do know added stress, and responsibility though. As you said before, he was happy while you were pregnant before, and despite his new round of complaints, he will be happy with it again, so good luck trying again.

I know you might want a child, but you have to consider if your can afford it. Kids are very costly and your already have 3. Take that into deciding your decision and you can afford it then have another talk with your husband.

Hey, I was just thinking, Vegas worked last time... take him there again!