Originally Posted by Donnieboy2008
Hi guys! Ok here we go...
I dont know what to do anymore. My "EX" wants a break from me and from everybody in general. I love this girl so much..I am 32 she is 34. I met her 9 months ago and we started a purely sexual relationship. After 3 months both feelings grew stronger and we started to develop love. We tried as boyfriend and girlfriend and everything was going well. The problem is she was going through a divorce. For awhile I thought I was a rebound but after several break ups on her part with me, she still says she loves me, but she needs time to get her head on straight. I admit I dont know what to do or how to handle this. Last week she asked to be my girlfriend again and we spent 5 great days together and everything was perfect. Then one night when I wasnt with her she had a bad dream about her ex husband. Everything changed with us again. The difference this time is she is now seeking therapy.
I was the one to push her to get concelling and she realises that sometimes. She has taken huge steps to get closure from this now. Now she says she wants a break from everything and has ended us again. She has bottled up totally, I no longer feel she appraciates me or has any feelings fo rme anymore, yet she sometimes admits she does think about me when she is alone. She hardly calls me anymore. I ask her if she wants me to just give up and walk away like she hints, but she wont answer me. I dont know what to do, I feel she loves me and wants to love but I also understand she needs to refix her life. She has several trust issues yet says she trusts me. She says I am the first one to do alot of things for her, like listen to her, encourage her to get help, do alot of the things her ex and her ex boyfriends never use to do, she says this, yet still she breaks up with me. I admit she has been really honest in the past with me and I have listened to everything she told me, but I dont know if I can believe her anymore. She keeps telling me I know how she feels about me, yet I dont anymore because she no longer shows it. I feel like a kid again.
She has pusehd me so far away and I dont know why. I havent been easy with this I admit, but I also havent shown her I am panicking too much over the break up. She has no confidence and no emotional support right now, so for sure I dont want to abandon her like everyone else. I try to take the pressure from me away from her, yet I fear maybe its too late. When I say if its better I get out of her life she says maybe it is better for her, I say its a yes or no question and she wont answer. She knows she is being selfish and I do understand she needs to be if she is to get better, I just dont know if I should let her go or just be there for her if she ever calls again.
I know this question is all messed up and everywhere because I am still processing everything, but if anyone has been in a similar situation a little insight would be great. I try to hate what she did but I just can't hate her. She gives me little sign of hope. She says she knows how amazing I am and she knows she can trust me, she knows my love for her is real, but still it doesnt seem enough to show her its ok. I feel if I stop calling she will forget me or jumpp to the conclusion I have moved on and forgotten her. I tell her I wont forget her and she feels pressure from this too! Her heart has turned to ice and being that I no longer know women anymore I dont know what to do with this one.
She trusts me, shes confortable with me she says, shes attracted to me still she says but actions speak louder than words I tell her and right now she says she can't express anything to me. And she tells me she is keeping her feelings to herself right now. Shes a good hearted person, she has been damaged, she IS the type to just tell me to screw off, but she wont.....she wont tell em anything. I know her head is messed up and she is confused, but if there are any women out there.....I need some advice.