My girl asked that we cool things down a bit, not that she was dumping me, and still loves me. So, okay, I try and let my girlfriend have her peace and quiet.. She never responded to my invite to see fireworks with me on the fourth.. That was over a week ago, 8 days I never made a peep. But yesterday I have the chance to work or not depending on her answer to my invite, so I text her in the morning, sent her a recorded message in the afternoon, and then being frustrated, called her, got her voicemail. I said honey. Let me know you are all right, this isn't like you. Told her if I didn't hear from her, that I might come over to make sure things are fine. All she wanted was for things to cool down a bit. Again, I asked if it was over, that I'd rather have her tell me straight up and not to bother her. No answer. What should I do? I have class tonight and after am thinking about stopping by to see what gives? She said she loves me and I'm a great guy.. is this how you treat someone you love? I would be fine leaving her alone for weeks if she asked that! (not really), but all she would have to do is ask. Why is she behaving like this? Truly, this is not the girl I've known for the last 4 months.

Personally, when I got into a fight w/ my lover, i like being chased and woed. When that stopped, I get bothered. Look, u already expressed enough intentions so just wait. If she doesnt call u back, it means she doesnt need ur presence, for now or its over.

Just do what you would do without hearing from her work or go to the fireworks without relying on her reply you would have heard from her by now.
Maybe she was giving you the we will still be friends speech thinking it was letting you down easy.
Maybe she figured it was a way of leaving her options open if she ever decided she wanted to go back with you.

Hello,"goldenboy7115"

To be really honest,here,since not responding to your invitation to see fireworks with
You [which she refused] you've NEVER given her a moment's peace and quiet!!

When your girl asked that you cool things down a bit, that's EXACTLY what she meant

Give the girl some space [and that means NO contact,until she says that she's
Ready for that!! ]

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Originally Posted by goldenboy7115

My girl asked that we cool things down a bit, not that she was dumping me, and still loves me. So, okay, I try and let my girlfriend have her peace and quiet..She never responded to my invite to see fireworks with me on the fourth..That was over a week ago, 8 days I never made a peep. But yesterday I have the chance to work or not depending on her answer to my invite, so I text her in the morning, sent her a recorded message in the afternoon, and then being frustrated, called her, got her voicemail. I said honey. let me know you are alright, this isn't like you. Told her if I didn't hear from her, that I might come over to make sure things are fine. All she wanted was for things to cool down a bit. Again, I asked if it was over, that I'd rather have her tell me straight up and not to bother her. No answer. What should I do? I have class tonight and after am thinking about stopping by to see what gives? She said she loves me and I'm a great guy..is this how you treat someone you love? I would be fine leaving her alone for weeks if she asked that! (not really), but all she would have to do is ask. Why is she behaving like this? Truly, this is not the girl I've known for the last 4 months.

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Well, to be honest, "IF" you truly went 8 whole days without contacting her by any methods, shapes, forms or fashions and it's been OVER a WEEK since you last left her a message, it's a 99.8% chance that it's over between you all. You see, although she said she wasn't dumping you, she was dumping you; that's called "leaving your options open", kind of suck, but enjoy your fireworks WITHOUT her.

Michelle

As hard as it may be, I won't bother her anymore. Geez.. I just came out of the worst relationship in my life.. 3 years with a woman.. the stuff I found out.. It was so hard to start dating again.. I thought this girl was different. I know, we all say that. But, Beth didn't have any of the hangups the old one did.. she has a great outlook on life. I felt very close to her very quickly. This came right out of the blue! She has chosen to cut all contact off with me. I don't know really what else to do.. The thing is, she mentioned at least a dozen times about marriage early on.. not directly but about... Know what I mean? Maybe she's just shopping around.. If that's so, then I was wrong about her. What would be a fair amount of time until I get back in touch? If it's over, I want to hear it directly from her lips.. Not this cat and mouse game.. Can't people just be straight up? You don't treat someone you love like this!

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GB, 6/26/08
She says she isn't but just thinks we shouldn't see each other for a while. What gives? I'm confused.:(

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You had no business inviting her to anything, knowing what she said before. Don't blame her for your failed effort to have it your way, when all you had to do was honor her request. See how you caused a lot of BS in your own life? She did nothing.

Let me tell you what I received via text from her... "We broke up a week ago. LEAVE ME ALONE! I owe you nothing...I said all I had to say. Do not text, call, or come by." So what do you all think? She's a winner isn't she? Nice way to handle someone that cares.. I never saw that coming.. That really shakes my faith in giving people the benefit of the doubt. Are all people really hiding a dark side inside? What a b*#@!

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I never saw that coming..

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I think a lot of us did. Look we know you cared, but you failed to realize what her feelings were. Failing to take a partners feeling into account can bring out the very worse in them. Its time to accept what she has been telling you, and I know, it sucks.

"goldenboy7115" I now that relationships can be tough,so can life!!

If you had your heart set on this girl,that just makes it all the worse.

As "talaniman" has said (however difficult it proves to be,for you to do it) you MUST now
let this girl go.